Nah cause saying I’m not gay just for you sorta means they’re not accepting themselves and somehow seeing being gay as a bad thing and if you have insomnia there’s literally no way you can suddenly get rid of it by sleeping with someone bc then you didn’t have insomnia in the first place
I don't think so.
There are many people who are not gay or bi even but they could easily turn out to be for that one person that has the right looks and personality, etc. that would make them look past the gender barrier.
It's not homophobic and has nothing to do with denying their sexuality, it really just has to do with meeting one person that would make you change that way even tho all others are of no interest to you.
This doesn't make sense unless you are suggesting that there is number threshold to meet in order to "qualify" for a particular sexual orientation. Which magical number would that be? It is this argument that discourages persons from identifying as bisexual because they feel it involves loving/being attracted to a certain ration of men:women to earn the title.
That's not how it works. It's an idea pushed primarily by straight women writing gay romance/BL. Gay writers and readers have highlighted what an offensive (and nonsensical) idea it is, and how it plays into erasure of LGBQ persons.
The very use of the phrase "look past the gender barrier" is (unintentionally?) homophobic. Why frame someone's gender as an obstacle, as if it were a flaw? If attraction/love is involved, why is there the *need* to look past something as elemental as your lover's gender? Surely, it is something to be embraced along with everything else that made them lovable.
To clarify, I meant the "gay for you" trope is one pushed primarily by heterosexual cisgender female gay romance/BL writers. All kinds of folks push bi-erasure both within and outside the LGBTQIA community, unfortunately.
For a person to realise they are gay, lesbian or bisexual etc.. does the discovery come from oneself or from noticing that they are more attracted to their respected gender preferences? I've always defined love, well in my own perspective, as loving or liking the person for their soul (Their personality and what makes them who they are) so if by chance that soul just so happens to be in the same gendered body it wouldn't pose much of a problem since its not physical attraction but a spiritual one. Just asking out of curiosity, I don't have much knowledge in this topic, but I would love to learn more ヾ(☆_☆)
I don't think there's one set set way. I'm sure different persons relate to it in different ways, like you :). I'm pansexual so I completely understand a relationship where the gender doesn't rank as a priority or major consideration at all.
Ohh I see, so the realisation happens differently for all people, it's amazing how we're all diverse ! Thank you for taking your time to answer (^0^)/
I like it when they're like "I'm not gay but I fell in love with you" it's like a person who has insomnia meeting that one special person that can help them sleep easily. Its like saying "I'm not gay but just towards you I am" or "Its hard to sleep if it's not besides you." You know?