This. I know it has been probably years since that happened but I want to thank you for running back to your workplace and recognizing that you weren't over him. Because to me that's Mitsuru's problem, he knew he wasn't completely over Kouichi yet he got into an official relationship with Shougo thus when he Kouichi came back, he was not able to make sound decisions that might have prevented him getting raped. The talk was a right decision but going into a hotel room was not, raped or not, it was inappropriate. If only Mitsuru allowed himself to rest from loving others and concentrated on himself, he would've made better decisions, but then we wouldn't have a story, would we?
thank you. yes, it's been years. you know, he did tell me that when he disappeared back then, that it was the best thing he could've done for me. i agreed with him. i will admit, because there was no real resolution for us both from that time, he was getting caught up in our past and i started to feel some type of way. i think it was just residual feelings on my end that needed to be dealt with, and i have. for him, he was still in love with the girl i once was. now that i'm the way i am, he always asks me where was the innocent and sweet girl from back then. i said, 'she's been gone a long time' lol
i agree..mitsuru should have given himself time to heal, to not have a rebound relationship, cos it really sucks for the other person. i've been both the rebound and the one who started a relationship on the rebound. it sucks either way. haha and you're right, without all these unwise decisions, drama, and stuff, we wouldn't have a story lol
I'm scared of getting into any relationship and your story gives me hope about independence and self-control.
Despite all the stupidity and impulsiveness that's happening in the series, I'd say its really good and I hope the readers get past victim blaming or hating the characters and actually find what the author wants its readers to take from the story. Like what happened to you, there's a lesson to be taken from yours and in this series.
i could have been mitsuri back when i was younger. i was in an abusive and controlling relationship. didn't start out that way, it was really hearts and flowers in the beginning. but when he just kind of disappeared, it was the best thing he did for me. then one day, he saw me driving on the street to my job. he followed me there and tried to talk to me. i didn't really acknowledge him and i got into my workplace as fast as i could. i knew that if i even let myself listen to him, i would get sucked right back in, because i wasn't quite over him....even if he used to hit me.
in that sense, i don't blame mitsuru, cos he thought it would be okay. but thinking you have some control over someone who's been controlling you is just not smart.
funnily enough, we work at the same place now after years of not seeing each other. we're a lot older, and he's even apologized to me. i really hope he means it when he says that he hasn't done that to anyone else, because i forgave him. i don't want my forgiveness to go to waste.