Yes >< Not talking to her was something I never wanted to do but it really looks like I would have to do it now
I don't even want her to love me, that's asking too much and there would be no future. I just want to mean something to her? She is my close friend before someone I love but I don't even know if I am just another friend who can be replaced or something more.
Thank you for taking your time and helping me. I appreciate it a lot.
You're welcome. Also, if they're meant or decide to be a part of your life then they will and I don't mean using you or coming towards you whenever they need help only but if they do use you then you should know the answer that they're not good to deal and it's a waste of time to have them in your life. I've been used and backstabbed by friends; especially family and I finally understand what it means to choose and trust people wisely because everyone has a mask on and will show their true colors later in life. I wish you the best. :)
It's true that you can't force someone to love you (except for those that develops stockholm syndrome), but it isn't impossible to make someone fall for you. It has a low chance, but it isn't entirely 0%. If you do things that will get them attracted to you or make it enjoyable for them, then it is possible for love to develop as well. However, if they are aware of your feelings, I believe that this will either lower or increase the chance of them falling for you (depends on every person)
Though my statements would be considered theoretical, if you think logically, I believe that this is possible. Consider this, if you notice someone and become conscious of them, you will think of that person. Isn't that the same as a person in the stage of "getting interested" in a normal "I don't know if I like them or not" scenario? I am not saying that this is the absolute result, but this is in fact a possible scenario. So I believe that it is possible to make someone fall for you, as long as you make subtle efforts that leads the other to gain that emotion.
But yes, if that person has absolute no interest in you - like if they hate you or if they like someone else or if you are simply not appealing to them...then I agree that it would be near impossible to make them fall for you.
Again, it depends on every person.
Ah- I became too analytical...sorry. I just love thinking about the logic in thoughts and emotions. I just wanted to understand the minds of people.
^^ I am glad that I was a bit helpful. I wish you luck on your dilemma.
Lol, it's fine. A thing I hate about the other person is they still lead you on when they have no interest into dating you.
i agree, those kinds of people are really awful. I guess they are just sadists? But then again, It is also possible that some didn't mean to tho? Idk
I guess I am afraid of what will happen if they decide they don't
Thankfully, I don't think I am being used or backstabbed. Sorry to hear that happened to you>< i wish you the best too :)
You were. Thanks a ton ^^
Please help me. I need a third person's opinion. This is a long post but I am really desperate and I can't talk to other people about this.
I have been in love with a person for over an year now. She lives in a different country, we are friends who talk on a daily basis. When I first realised I fell in love with her, I knew I was screwed. This is my first time liking someone even though I am in my early twenties.
From the start I had no hopes of getting together with her or even confessing. Nothing of that sort.
I just want to stay by her as a friend and like help her from the sidelines, being an emotional support and someone she can talk to?
But, I am an incredibly petty person and I get jealous even when I am not supposed to. And sometimes she is really mean and it hurts me so so much.
She is a person who doesn't express her feelings that much so she doesn't even pay compliments or other stuff like a good luck on my exam or things like that. I repeat, we talk on a regular basis.
Most of the time I am just afraid that I am just another person to her, even though she means so much to me(even without the whole I am in love with her deal).
I don't know what to do anymore, sometimes I hurt like crazy and I literally cry for a week. But on the other hand, I don't want to stop talking to her.
This is really messing up with my life and I am just clueless. I don't even want a romantic relationship out of this. Am I over reacting? Or am I acting too much like a clingy brat?
I posted in "things" but idk how that works><