The uncle's totally at fault.Stop blaming women for men's own mistakes or everything.This is NOT open to dispute.What she did doesnt have to do with homophobia.
sadly so many "fujoshis" are misogynistic because of the typical stereotype of "all the women in yaoi are bitches"; from my pov i understand the uncle's feelings but what he did was fucked up, he literally played with her feelings
Gay men are men and they still have male privileges and yes they have the edge over women,they still use it.Stop ignoring misogyny and male privilege.That's reality.Talking about that shit is not homophobia.It's just a fact.
But still can u really say that when she just admit that she knew he was gay before they dated? Y would u put urself in that position knowing full well that he may never come to love u like u love him, the heart is something u should never force love on bcuz it can make u miserable for the rest of ur life. It's not about being a fujoshi/fudanshi it's morals and principles, then to push it in his face and say "come to my wedding and c me get married, something u can't do" he might be gay but that doesn't mean he's not human r have feelings so she is wrong on sooo many levels so u really can't blame anyone for voicing they're opinion about her ╮(￣▽￣)╭
You're acting like he couldn't say no and refuse her, like she put a gun to his head and told him to date her. I'll admit that she made poor decisions, but the fact that she wanted to date him and that he accepted her feelings also implies that he wanted to work out their relationship. It takes two to tango! They even got engaged. She may have offered him a hand, but he took it and made her believe that he had every intention of holding onto it too.
So many fujoshis just like hating on the women, and prented like the guy can do no harm. Newsflash: yes, he can. If you're calling her out on it, then you sure as hell should drag him too, because he made the problem even worse
tbh i think what she said was homophobic. yes he hurt her feelings but u have to remember being gay in korea is MUCH different than being gay in america (idk where ur from but im american). i havent seen many comments and yes i agree many yaoi fanss can be very misogynitic and i dont dislike the girl but im disappointeed that she would say that marriage comment. i dont think its misogyny to say that its fucked up of her to say that as that comment does not only apply to the uncle but the entire gay commnity (which includes women as well). honestly wwhat i saw is that a lot of yaoi fans actually dont care about gay people at all and dont understand or care about the struggles that people have to go thru and just want to fetishize them for their ships or what not. anyways this is really long but i think to reduce it to misogyny (which i agree is rampant on this site) and to deny that what she said is homophobic isn't right. the bottom line is the unlces life is going to be INFINITELY times more difficult than hers as a gay man in a country that is actively against gay rights than a woman whos heart was broken by someone who was confused and scared. if u understand misogyny than i think u should also have a bit more compassion and empathy for the gay community. this was unnecessarily long lol tldr; intersectionality is a thing ANYWAYS have a good day
Yep ur right on so many levels, I don't hate her either but think back, knowing he's gay and him accepting ur feelings doesn't mean his attraction towards men will go away, ur a great person and he likes u but hoping for love is a long stretch and he just went along with the flow bcuz he was scared of how others/society will look at him. It's like having a tuna sandwich but hoping it turns into ham, u just can't ask for the impossible, do what normal people do and take a different path she know what she was getting into so she can't blame for everything ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
lmao i don't see how some disliked this comment when it's true. i've read a lot of bl and just about every time a women shows up, whether she's /actually/ a bitch or just super sweet, a good bunch of them throw out gross comments calling her a slut/bitch/etc or how they want to kill her so the boys can be together, even though they'll be together in the end ANYWAYS bc it's a damn bl manga
eww, there are so many misogynistic comments on here.Disgusting.