Why doesn't this have more up votes? You described it beautifully ty^^
Thank you very much for the lovely compliment. I have been involved in BDSM for 30 years. The S/M, dominant/submissive dynamic is what drew me in. The typical ideas of "power" and "control" are terribly flawed. I realized this only after being involved in BDSM and experiencing what real "power" and "control" looked and felt like.
Give the comment a few days, it is kinda new. I hope more readers feel the same way you do. Thanks, again, for the lovely compliment. You made my day.
For the first time since I knew what BDSM is I finally found someone who really understand something about the subject. It pains me when the seme rapes and beats the uke and someone says it's BDSM, because it's not! It just plain violence (altought it can make a great plot if the mangaka is any good, like Caste Heaven), of course it's nothing wrong since fiction it's not reality, but it's not BDSM. Like you said, the sub controls the whole action and people not seeing this and saying anything violent is BDSM male pissed.
Really, you should write a book or manga and show it to the people. Anyway, I already love you! So good to see someone who really knows about what is talking about!
Thank you for the lovely compliments. There is "rape play" and ravishment in BDSM, but that is usually done between established partners with complete consent, trust and understanding between them. So, one could say that the "yaoi rape" that is depicted in manga - When the seme kabe-dons or pushes the uke down and has his way with them - is an extension or depiction of rape play in BDSM, but it is a poor example. Those who are involved, seriously, in BDSM would never just push a stranger, friend or potential love interest down and engage in rape play without the other person's consent. That is actually rape, the crime, and they would be just as guilty of that crime as any rapist. People engaged in BDSM take consent very seriously because the games we play border on assault, battery and rape if there is no consent from the other party and we could easily find ourselves in prison if we are not strict about consent. I have been involved in BDSM for 30 years and the people I "play" with, as well as myself, have legal written documents of consent and liability wavers that we ask all partners to sign. We have to protect ourselves and our partners. There is enough risk in BDSM games, there is no need to increase it.
Thank you, again, for the lovely compliments. I wish you the very best and hope we get a chance to talk again in the future. Have a great day!
I'm glad I read this story just to read this comment. I so happy to find someone who actually understands these relationship dynamics and not just blindly glorifying them. Thank you.
Or blindly dismissing and insulting them. You don't have to engage in, agree with, or even like a subject to understand it. Sex, in it's various forms, is always a complicated matter., whether discussing sex and love, sex and pleasure or things like kinks and fetishes. Only when one understands sex can one really get out of it all there is it has to offer. LOL
This is a very hot, sexy, smutty, short story. The dynamics of an S/M relationship are conveyed beautifully, though not necessarily specifically, and the art is superb. Most people don't know much more about BDSM than what they read here and there or see in porn. So, most assume that "power" and "control" in a BDSM relationship either go hand in hand or are one one the same thing. That isn't how it really works. Because the masochistic personality derives pleasure from pain and humiliation, the masochist is the one who controls the flow of the relationship dynamic - they are the one dictating their own pleasure. The sadist is the one being directed. By refusing or complying with a sadist's demands, the masochist directs their own pleasure. The sadist is actually at the masochist's mercy if the masochist chooses to not give the sadist the pleasure they seek. It's the same as looking at who controls the dynamic of a relationship between a spoiled rotten child and their parent. The parent has all the power, but the spoiled child dictates the way their relationship progresses, the child is in control. If the child behaves, the parent is pleased. If the child throws a tantrum, the parent gives the spoiled child what they want. If the masochist seeks pleasure in the form of punishment, they disobey the sadist. If the masochist wants to please the sadist by appealing to their ego, they comply with the sadist's demands. Obviously, this dynamic applies to S/M relationships involving mutual consent, affection and understanding and not one sided cases of violence and abuse. In this story, the "switching" of the uke conveys the moment when their relationship "switches" to the sadist wanting to give the masochist what they desire rather than only seeking to please himself. One night stands are engaged in to find pleasure for one's self. The other person's pleasure is secondary. Whereas, a committed relationship's sex revolves around pleasing one's partner first and putting one's own pleasure second. The "switch" depicted in this story is not only literal, the switching of the positions, but also metaphorical - their relationship "switched" from being selfish pleasure seeking to seeking pleasure for their partner as a priority. Or, from a one night stand to a more committed relationship. The mangaka's subtltey in portraying this "switch" is remarkable and done beautifully. There is actually more to this story than just sex. LOL