So sick of Jaeha

I completely agree with your statement.
Jaeha as a character, is the saddest thing but also i can't fully comprehend him.
It's just beyond weird to me, how Jaeha acts.
Idk, maybe it's just me? I guess it's because I haven't dated enough or socialized enough to meet different kinds of people?
Ive never met or knew someone who's in love but acts the way Jaeha acts.
When you're in love, like truly in love, it makes you cancel out all the bs in your mind( questions and self-doubt) and just go dive in. It's like an automatic thing. Like, basic human nature.

Maybe, I already know the answer: Jaeha is just not really in love.

because there is people like Jaeha, in real life too. who just because you are in love with someone, you can turn off those negative thoughts. it helps, yeah, but they don't go away.
people like him, are like me. the "Truely in love takes away the BS and you dive in", is the fairy tale ending to us.
With his past, he's probably got some form of depression. he may not be conscious of it, but i see it. In how he behaves, how he thinks, how he puts up a wall, that he really never intended to put up in the first place, and the not automatically trusting what's in front of him.
i love Jaeha. He's real, he's deep, he struggles with himself. He doesn't intentionally walk all over anybody.

Exactly how I feel he may feel as if he's come to love eunho but he only went out wid him becuz he felt obligated to do that he's love is nowhere as near as eunho although I want him to hurt miserably and fr eunho to leave him cuz he deserves it(becuz no matter what he's gone through,he's a piece of trash fr throwing away someone who loves him his whole life,evn though he wants to be loved he kewps running away he's such a selfish person)

It's interesting to me to read your perspective and to understand "love" from your standpoint; a person like Jaeha.
I understand how Jaeha's behavior came to be.
But the struggle I have is accepting the way Jaeha loves or confirming that what Jaeha feels towards Eunho is love.
Like I said, I never dated or befriended someone like Jaeha or you.
That's why i have all these questions.

Now I think I kinda get it.
The way you love is like grey and toned down instead of like all the way blazing Red.

I guess not everyone is the same when they fall in love.

Hmmm I've read the comment above yours. And they seem to explain themselves well and how they point out that it's true, that there are just people who struggle a lot internally even when they're in love 110%. And the struggles they have with themselves don't disappear even when they find someone important.

I guess you and me are the same when we fall inlove. We just let go of inhibitions and do absolutely everything for our significant other.

I guess we just gotta accept that not everyone loves the same way.

if you have questions, feel free to ask.
i just see it a lot in friends and in myself. these walls we subconsciously put up. a lot of times we don't realize we are doing it. not until someone points it out or years later, you get the light bulb. and are just sitting there like "Well, crap. now how do i go about fixing this?". (fixing the wall.)
i sympathize a lot with Jaehea, because not at all for the same reasons, but i had one parent that walked away after rejecting me. it's really hard to get past. i was in therapy for years. (my mom and brother because of him too.)
In his case, at least it seems this way to me. is that his mom walked out. he innocently fell in love and had his heart stomped on, had his dad reject his. and thus the sex friend relation with the other guy (at the start of the series.). he was done i think. and here is pure little Eunhou, who literally sees the world in rose color.
i think he was in love with him. If you pay attention, he was falling for and i think even starting to trust him. to trust "this". (which is hard to do). and the meet up with the mom and sister, Eunhou messing around and almost getting them caught, and the words his mom and sister said. i think it tossed him back into that negative place. almost like a splash of cold water.
making him think "i could destroy his family like i did mine", and probably such thoughts. if he had been suffering some version of depression, those incidents were most likely a trigger, settling him into a negative, black place. that is not easy to crawl out of. and your head will tell you to think the worst. (seen voldemort whispering to harry potter?? it's like that.)

Everything makes sense now! Now Jaeha makes sense!
And I now that I do understand things better, I feel helpless.
Like, what can I do to make him let go of the hurt?
I want to help him to brave and strong. I hope Eunho does that.
I know this is fiction, but I can't help feel strongly!!

It's weird that we both are reading the same manhwa but completely absorb it differently.
I think I focused more on Eunhos pain and didn't quite get Jaeha simply because I couldn't relate with him. I didn't mean to be a bitch. Gomenazai!!

Thank you for helping me understand and for sharing your story.
Let's go out for icecream???

no, you so are not a bitch. i agree, it's nice to see others looking from different perspectives, then coming together and talking about theirs, peacefully.
i always related to Jaehea. i wasn't even rooting for Eunho at the start, i was rooting for the sex friend. it's not that i didn't like him, i just felt he''s a bit young and pure, and i wasn't sure he could give Jaehea what he needs in the long run.
i feel like Jaehea needs someone by his side who can see past the pain. to just honestly love him and respect him. (at the start, Eunho did do that). but i think he needs someone to stand side by side, equally supporting each other, who gives him a gentle push when he needs it, but also understands when they need to back off and let him go at his own pace. someone who he doesn't need to apologize to but understands, when he has these negative moment. someone who won't easily back away, but not a stalker vibe, like the one currently going on.
i feel strongly about the characters too! :)

I’m older and was married. It was a good, happy time in my life. Passion and fireworks are great (with none you might as well be friends), but ultimately a partner is who you want to spend your life with. Nothing is better than a person who accepts you 100% for who you are. Having each other’s backs using your strengths to compliment each other. I was good with finances and he was good dealing with people. Do you see Jaeha ever being a partner? He’s too wrapped up in his own insecurities. Can you imagine how exhausting it would be to be with someone you constantly has to chase and reassure? That’s why I said he needs to love himself first and gain confidence before he could ever be a good partner to anyone.

i've been in that kind of relationship myself for seven years. the type of relationship where, we may have both had insecurities as bad as Jaehea. (we both grew up in abusive homes, both from our dads). But even at our lowest, we were still considerate to one another. It was both our jobs, that when one of us was upset, we would cheer the other person up, listen to them, and make each other hear that we love them with scars and all. I agree, i don't know if i can see Jaehea doing that any time soon. But eunho is kind of, almost too innocent as well. i myself know, it can be really hard to connect with guys like him, whose biggest hardship in life, was that his crush didn't notice his feelings.

He may have had a happy life, but somehow he’s still pretty perceptive (fiction right). No ones perfect. Like you said, both of you have insecurities, but you have each others backs.its impossible to like anyone 100% of the time, but Jaeha always seems to be wearing a mask and has hurt multiple people. Exwife even said it wasn’t about the photo but rather that h couldn’t be open and honest. Yet he seems focused about the person who took the photo and spread it.

ironically, only in his one not-a relationship, his sex friend from the beginning, was he open and honest with. even vulnerable with him. Truthfully, that's why i liked him and his sex friend better. He saw Jaehea for who he was, and loved him still. He easily opened his arms to him, so he would relax and feel secure. i think they could of actually had something good between them. Only with him, Jaehea didn't seem to wear his mask, of trying to appear perfect.