Please go search for your self acceptances somewhere else

Nxyeria March 4, 2018 5:29 am

This is such a beautiful and well written story but the people in the comments are cancerous, reiterating the same thing someone has literally posted underneath them. We get it. But trying to tell others to stop adressing J as what he is, is annoying. J is a man in a story revolving other gay men (and one odd woman) going through stages of sexual development that many irl gay men (and some strange women) go through. If you guys want to call him transgender or whatever, you are free to do so. It makes sense, its non refutable in some cases but saying others should as well is obnoxious. No transitions would ever happen. He'd never go from male to full woman so whats wrong with calling him a man. J even refers to himself as a nelly, and never makes a big deal about being called the sex that he is because it does not bother him. Plus if he'd ever transition (which he has no desire to do) that would completely undermine him accepting himself, and J is not alone now. He has found love and acceptance with Paul. Who is a man in love with J's true self, a man. An beautiful effeminate diva one, but a man non the less.

Responses
    Nxyeria March 4, 2018 6:57 am

    Up here Lavender, in case you got lost :)

    Lavender-Rose March 4, 2018 7:29 am
    Up here Lavender, in case you got lost :) Nxyeria

    So what I’m getting from all this is that you hate the idea of J being a trans woman because it would ruin “the hot yaoiz.” Got it.
    Also you acknowledged that interpreting J as trans is a valid interpretation but why does it bother you so much? Others think she’s a trans woman and you don’t, why does that piss you off so much? No one is saying you having to think she’s trans but you seem to think people are.
    I’m not going to argue with you anymore because clearly you’re not going to listen to me.

    Lavender-Rose March 4, 2018 7:41 am
    So what I’m getting from all this is that you hate the idea of J being a trans woman because it would ruin “the hot yaoiz.” Got it. Also you acknowledged that interpreting J as trans is a valid interpreta... Lavender-Rose

    I correct myself. Exactly one person down below is saying you have to think she’s trans. Still that’s only one person and you are in no way obligated to agree with them. The way you reacted was really immature though.

    Nxyeria March 4, 2018 8:30 am
    I correct myself. Exactly one person down below is saying you have to think she’s trans. Still that’s only one person and you are in no way obligated to agree with them. The way you reacted was really immat... Lavender-Rose

    I am giving my interpretation of a character that acknowledges himself as a gay male and saying that it is still ok to call him as such. The reason why I responded against those who, yes can interpret J as what they want to but understand that other may not feel the same, is that what was being said by yourself and a few others undermines the homosexuality of this story. Not because I see this for "the hot yaoiz" as you so eloquently put it, but because I see it as a one in a million story that shows true character development and struggles of gay men. Many homosexual males grow up doing the same things J does (make up, idolizing female celebs, referring to themself as "she", dressing up as girls) and are not labeling themselves as transgender women, or transisioning into actual women, just because they like the things girls like. I am onlu saying that it is ok to call him a he, he does not mind it, he knows what he is and accepts it presently.

    Daisy November 2, 2020 10:24 pm
    I am giving my interpretation of a character that acknowledges himself as a gay male and saying that it is still ok to call him as such. The reason why I responded against those who, yes can interpret J as what... Nxyeria

    But is that apart of the gau side or gender experimentation? Not all gay guys like feminine things or ever want to be seen as a girl

    Daisy November 2, 2020 10:27 pm

    Further more...J's femininity....is seen as a curse. Growing up in 1960s. Many trans women up until recently still called themselves men because that's how society sees it over all.

    At the end, she's not just in the dress, but singing the song she liked as a kid, before the world, her father, and her mother all went to shit and death, mental illness.

    Her feminity is also seen as a curse. She fights with it. She is most happy when she is dressed like a woman.

    Her identity she feels is compounded by the fact she finds it toxic. She loves/hates herself at the same time.

    Its not just a regular gay story.

    ass April 30, 2021 1:17 am

    J literally says multiple times that she is a women, she also says that shes always thought of herself as women until she realized her and her mother had different body parts. She also literally wants to become marilyn monroe (who is a woman) this is so obvious stop denying it

    Nxyeria April 30, 2021 3:48 am

    ..wait...people still finding this comment? My views have somewhat changed since I wrote this but I still pretty much stand by it. Believe what you want and take from this story whatever you'd like. It's still bl

    ass May 1, 2021 5:39 am
    ..wait...people still finding this comment? My views have somewhat changed since I wrote this but I still pretty much stand by it. Believe what you want and take from this story whatever you'd like. It's still ... Nxyeria

    If it was a bl it would be tagged as either shounen ai or yaoi