I somehwat agree with u.. but what if u were the broken one, wouldn´t u want someone to help u overcome it? should everyone leave u behind and only think about themselves? we have become too selfcentered. i think he should have given him another chance to prove himself not leave him the moment he learned abt a story that happened long ago.
Well having empathy and, as you say, help him overcome it would be the ideal way of act, but there are somethings that are unforgivable, and you have to be selfcentered. Maybe offer him the number of a good psychologist and a good speech that made him feel that is not alone, that he can go through that. But never a second chance as a couple. The old man created a very strong and dependent relationship, with this dependence he was in control over him. If Yoo-il had gave him another chance the relationship would have become psychological abuse, and maybe worst. In this case the old man (sorry I dont remember de name XD) wouldnt have learn anything. And actually, the end of the relationship was not only good for Yoo-il but for the old man too. What Yoo-il did was a very brave and difficult decision, because he really loved him, but in this case in which you have seen how the other part does not respect you privacy, does not trust you, and want to have total control over you, you have to cut it fast and without thinking it twice. The most difficult thing is realized that the person you love so deeply makes you more harm than good, and the bravest is to say goodbye and be selfish, wish for your own happiness.
Contrary to what may appear I dont think the old man is a bad person, but he has to learn, and seek for his own happiness without dependence. Be happy on your own and choose to share that happiness with someone, not make that happiness depend on other person.
Sorry if I write too much, as I said in my other post, this happened to me, and I did gave him another chance, which ended up in the worst scenario, until I learned how to be selfish and watch for myself.
maybe because i don´t have apersonal experience in this aarea i´m having hardtime connecting the dots, but i really didn´t see it that extreme. oh well i wonder what happened to the old man
This was so realistic. It's not the typical romanization of a relationship with a happy ending for the couple being together. The old man had a very toxic way of act, and he is at fault, thats it. He was insecure, he had his inner problems and everything but he should talk about it with his partner, but he choose the easy and toxic way. The thing that bother me the most was his attempt of suicidal. that showed the kind of person he was, he was making himself the victim blaming Yoo-il, but the main reason of that behavior is himself not Yoo-il, and if you want overcome it, you need profesional help, if not, you will drown the people you love with you making them unhappy. This kind of people are better to keep them away from you. What Yoo-il did was his happy ending and but he has scars from that toxic relationship.I know if someone reads this will desagree with me, but I´m saying all this because this happend to me. Its true that you have to care for your friends and your lover, but your happiness comes first, and if that relationship ,friend or boyfriend, hurts its not for you, and you have to let it go, care for yourself and be happy, and im glad Yoo-il could be happy, just as I could.