Hmm

I thought so too!

Well I can stand a partner like that irl, but my sister has a friend that’s a dude and his ex wife was so possessive it caused them not to talk for a few year and when they got a divorce he started dating another woman and his ex told everyone he raped her and now he is not aloud to see his kids.but she isn’t either cause she crazy

I had a possessive and jealous lover but he was super passive aggressive about it. We’re also no longer together. He wouldn’t say you can’t do this or that but he would do things that made choosing not to do them seem like the best or only choice. Then you couldn’t say he was forcing you to do or not do things. It’s sucked. Like how he made it so I never chose to never leave him and go out with friends. I went with a friend one night to a party. He didn’t seem upset about me leaving either. But I came home to blood everywhere. He OD’d On benzos and taken a knife and hacked at his leg. My first clue something was wrong was bloody paw prints from my cat walking through his blood. He spent three days in intensive care and a while longer in a psych ward. When he got out I never went anywhere without him. Not all of his actions were that dramatic but he routinely boxed me in and made choosing what he wanted seem like the best or only choice. That’s why I always say that I love reading these twisted managas that still have a happy ending bc irl there’s no happy ending with a lover that controlling. I see comments that seem to think it’s thrilling to have a lover say I’ll kill you if you leave me bc you think it means he loves you so much, but when the knifes to your throat it’s not thrilling. Irl possessive = controlling. It can also mean abuse. There may be some tiny percentage of ppl who make it work but I’ve never seen it.

i’ve dated a guy like this. it was an abusive relationship. both mentally and emotionally. honestly, it’s exhausting but it shows how insecure a person is.

Why does that matter though? Just because he's bisexual, doesn't mean he's flirting any time he talks to a girl. why should he have to stop hanging out with his classmates just because his partner is abusively possessive?

Idk, I have friends I've seen in situations like this and it never sits well with me to see them controlled like that :/

Sorry you had to go through that And yes, I think its from girls who've become normalized to dialogue like that because they learned what a "healthy" (not) relationship looks like from movies like the notebook instead of being taught that being told things like "I'll kill myself if you ever leave me" is a sign of a manipulative partner.

It is but I'm glad you saw through and got out of it! The longer you stay, the more control they gain over you.

thank you <3 and i agree.

jesus thats awful man, glad you're out of it now

Im scared. In the long run youd never realize you were being manipulated. Suddenly you havent been talking or hanging out with your friends and never being able to socialize with anybody anymore, etc. Down the rabbit hole of an abusive relationship.

=( omg im so glad youre out of that relationship already. You go girl! I hope you find that person that will truly love you and trust you let you be you and let you live your life, no abusive controlling bullsh- goin on.