Why hate him?

That_One_Sith July 5, 2018 9:18 pm

Hyesung has all the right not to want a baby he didn't want since the begining. Think of this situation as if it were a woman who didn't want to be a mother and all of the sudden she is pregnant and it wasn't all her fault... I mean...

And I'm not saying it's the baby's fault either, because congrats to all the people who wants to be parents. But you can't force someone -who just literally learned that he could procreate and didn't want to be a mother yet- to be all love about a baby.

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    youraedthiswrogn July 5, 2018 11:07 pm

    Sure, but the moment she decides she wants to keep the baby she picks up the responsibilities of that decision, including treating it like a human instead of a lottery ticket. Doesn't really matter if she WANTS it if she decides to have it, that is why there are neglect laws and people look at neglect so harshly. It is a child and if it is going to be born it needs to be treated that way.

    That_One_Sith July 6, 2018 12:10 am
    Sure, but the moment she decides she wants to keep the baby she picks up the responsibilities of that decision, including treating it like a human instead of a lottery ticket. Doesn't really matter if she WANTS... youraedthiswrogn

    Most of the time that love happens when the baby is already born, not while the woman is pregnant. Through the whole pregnancy they need therapy because they don't get attached to the baby and that's normal in a lot of cases.

    Hyesung is not even receiving therapy.

    youraedthiswrogn July 6, 2018 12:49 am
    Most of the time that love happens when the baby is already born, not while the woman is pregnant. Through the whole pregnancy they need therapy because they don't get attached to the baby and that's normal in ... That_One_Sith

    You're going back to talking about how the mother feels about the baby, It isn't about "love" or "wanting the baby", was my point. Hyesung chose to have it and has just been treating it like a lottery ticket, all that is in his head is the money he's going to get. He can not want the baby and still treat it like it's a human. You can feel a certain way about something and still treat it right, as a soon-to-be mother he has responsibilities that he has been neglecting. You think the child is going to be okay with knowing how Hyesung is acting? That he didn't want to look at the picture or that he was rejecting of the idea of it's existence to the point of smacking baby booties out of the father's hands? Hyesung doesn't need to like or want the baby, but he needs to acknowledge that it IS a baby and be treated as such instead of him just not thinking of it and rolling in cash and gifts while rejecting mentioning of it.