Hi! something a little similar happened to me but mmm have you considered you might be somewhere on the ace spectrum?
I hope I'm not offending you but it might be the case and hopefully bring you some peace to know?
Ace spectrum?
It happens! I’m not a virgin though, but I’m 30 and I’ve done it no more than 5 times in my life. I’ve never had a boyfriend so my partners have been on the casual side, in fact, the last time I did it was around 3 years ago. I’ve never had an orgasm having sex and I’ve never slept with someone who I felt a great desire for, more like, I did it out of boredom, because the people I really like never like me back and because I thought “damn, my vagina is gonna dry or die if I don’t do something from time to time”. I hate myself sometimes but it’s just really hard for me to like someone enough to want to have sex with them and there’s also a matter of trusting men I think.
But my point is, don’t feel like an alien for not having a sex life because you’re not the only one out there
yep! like maybe asexual, as in not really feeling sexual desire in the same way most people describe or just not at all. Or maybe demisexual, as in you need a deep emotional connection with someone first and only then you can maybe consider sexual stuff without it being gross.
I do feel sexual desire, in fact, I have a lot of that. It's just like you said, I just want to do it with a person I love, I take relationships and feelings very seriously.
I’m 19 and a virgin, so no big deal, but when everyone your age has had sex it can feel a bit embarrassing even though it isn’t a big deal I’ve never dated either. I’m not ace or aro, just very picky and kinda got trust issues lolol. Maybe I’m waiting for the right person.
Ooooh yes, I'm 23 and was just like that. My first was like two years ago and very random but not bad overall, although I do not recommend doing that.
I relate so much to Nana, but I'm 29 years old, and yes, I'm a virgin, I know it's not something bad, but it's embarrassing to talk about that and I'm so shy... I just had my first some months ago, I didn't feel anything, but now I think i t was disgusting. But oh well...