like you said, maybe it's because us, as an audience, have an eagle's eye view on the situation that it makes it so easy to get frustrated with YuYang. But then again, maybe LiHuan really isn't gay. maybe he is on the ace spectrum (demisexual) or maybe he's bi or pan, we don't know because these just aren't terms that are used very often in bl comics. and maybe that's what's holding him back from saying that he is gay because he doesn't strictly fit into the definition of the term. maybe for him it's an "i haven't ONLY liked guys my entire life... so i can't be gay... but i really hecking like YuYang, who is a guy. so what does that make me?" situation.
Finally someone with a brain in this ugly comment section
I understand this statement but on the other hand some people don't view sexuality as something with categories. For someone who leans towards fluidity or even gray-a it has less to do about gender than it does about the person.
So for him, he's trying to convey that he has feelings for him and if his version of romantic or sexual feelings is tied to gender then why not approach it by his language? Rather than asking if he was gay he should have been more specific about what his feelings towards HIM was not his feelings towards other hypothetical people.
But again, that's not YuYang's responsibility. LiHuan is the one who wants something out of YuYang, not the other way around. If LiHuan wants to be taken seriously, *he's* the one who needs to explain and convey his feelings and thoughts properly, which he hasn't done. He has been nothing but extremely vague about everything. It's not up to YuYang to ask all the "right questions", it's up to LiHuan to express himself properly so there wouldn't be misunderstandings. You can't count on just one person, the person being held in the dark, to just all of a sudden know how everything works without the other person telling him.
To top it off, LiHuan is fully aware of this. He's not getting frustrated or mad at YuYang - he understands that he just hasn't conveyed how he feels properly and that he's bad at expressing himself. That's why he now seeks help from the girl, to help him to do it properly. It's only people here in the problems that are having problems with YuYang.
I don't think it's his responsibility. He said he liked him. They both have to sit down and have a conversation because what does sexuality labels have to do with liking someone? How much more specific do you have to be than 'I like you.' The guy that YuYang had thing for was presumably gay but isn't interested in him. When someone says they like you what does half the population of a gender have to do with it? I think they both need a conversation but I'm not going to fault one overy the other because of societal expecting regarding sexuality labels.
I haven't said it's his responsibility. I'm explaining how it's not single-handedly YuYang's responsibility, as many are saying it is. It's both responsibility, difference is that LiHuan wants something while YuYang does not currently.
Regarding sexuality, it does have to do with liking someone. If you're straight, how can you be in love with someone and be sexually attracted to someone from the same gender? Then you're probably not straight. LiHuan hasn't explained anything and is being very vague about everything. He hasn't directly told YuYang he likes him, just confirming that it was a confession when he was vaguely expressing his feelings that could be interpretated otherwise, hence YuYang's reaction of disbelief. I do agree that they need to sit down and have a proper conversation. My original comment was meant to offer another perspective as people was being overly critical towards YuYang.
This counts if you don't believe that sexuality is on a spectrum that exists outside of labels. Of you fall for the person and not the gender then how does the label of gay or straight fit? I just think it's a societal problem that people talk labels first. It's a flawed view point, especially if we go with the motto "love is love".
I generally agree. It's a communication issue. Wish everyone understood it as such and gave both characters some slack in their comments. From personal experience it's far more harmful and hurtful to be put in a boxed. It's weird when people bash one half of a ship the want because they're not getting what they want asap lmao this is what makes it fun.
I agree!
Also, can I just point something out, that people seem to not remember?
LiHuan said "(from all of the people I have met) you are the most lovely one. I really like you." to YuYang over the phone. YuYang then asks if that was a confession when they meet, LiHuan hesitates for a moment, but says yes. LiHuan then said, directly to YuYang's face, "I'm not (gay)". Now, only a few chapters later, he throws out "then I'm gay". It seems like he's making a "mockery" out of it and doesn't know what he is or isn't. And yes, while that's fair (that he's unsure), it sends signals to YuYang that LiHuan has no idea how he actually feels or what he's doing. From the start, he doesn't even confess properly and is being very vague about it, WHILE YuYang is having a horrible time at his parents' home due to him being gay.
This is the LAST thing YuYang needs, from his perspective. Some guy who all of a sudden seems to have this idea that he likes him, but can't even explain his sexuality or confess properly. What YuYang needs and wants is stability and someone who can give 100%, not some "guess-my-sexuality-game", and LiHuan hasn't expressed that he's able to do that to YuYang, only to others or in his thoughts. While WE, as audience, are aware that he's fully capable of doing that, YuYang has no idea of knowing this.
So with that said, cut YuYang some fucking slack already.