QUICK QUESTION GUYS!!!

I never heard of that in real life, and personally never felt the need to do so... so, either I was never properly in love, either real people don't do that

LOOOOOOL! That's what I thought but then i was like they must have gotten it from somewhere though(〜￣△￣)〜

Well, I've kept a piece of fabric tainted with bloof of one of my partners.
And I know it seems creppy, but it's a really important thing to me.

Buut.. like.. smelling dirty underwear and masturbating for it, that It seems just disgusting fo me xD

I mean I've done this sorta thing with my boyfriend but I gave him my underwear so it was totally consensual

but that's your boyfriend, so its fine ╮(￣▽￣)╭

but i'm talking about crushes, that don't even know you like them

I'm aromantic, so I never felt romantic love for someone. I have dated people but it felt so wrong and kind of disgusting? And since I don't have close friends and a close relationship with my family, I'm really curious how can someone love one another so much that they even keep that person's unneeded belongings. One of my classmates had a box full of tissues, coffee cups and basically trash kind of materials her boyfriend used.

Yeah that's kinda creepy, it's an invasion of a person's privacy that they haven't consented to. I can understand why someone would find the idea appealing but I still think it's wrong when the other person isn't aware or okay with it.

You are not an "aromantic", you have an emotional situation that must be treated for you to enter in a healthy relationships (any kind).
Please seek for a therapist and deal with this.
It's not ok assume that things like that are "normal" and something you should live with

There are people who can't fall in love with others. I think it's a little rude to assume that they have some sort of "emotional situation" just because of it. There are plenty of things that we are unfamiliar with in this world, but outright denying them without knowing anything - or much - about them is a little... irresponsible, to say the least. Don't treat it like a condition. Everyone has a different version of 'normal' that doesn't have to conform to your own. That's just my opinion, though, ultimately.

That's like saying "mental healthness doesn't exist, everyone is different!"

There are things such as conditions and there are things that are just part of our personalities. This is one of the first kind.

I don't care if it offends you, because you are the one who is meddling between a healthy emotional life and this person just because you don't like "labels".

Please refrain to give your "opinion" if it's not a professional one.

I will admit that mine isn't a professional opinion. But as a person who has bounced through more than a dozen of these so-called "professionals", I like to believe that my opinion isn't invalid. Ultimately, these "professionals" that you are so confidently putting on a pedestal as individuals. Ones with different beliefs and values and opinions. Ones who honestly clearly don't really seem to have studied the same subject - that's how different their diagnosis are.

Of course there are such things as conditions. There is no doubt about it. But many fail to notice that these days, everyone who strays from the norm even slightly is labelled with a "condition". Welp, if you're a "professional" yourself as you seem to have insinuated, and you believe that every single thing is a "condition", and that you are the judge of that... (^^) maybe you have a bit of a superiority complex yourself? But I wouldn't know. Maybe you should go to a "professional" to ascertain it.

Sigh. Honestly, I don't like picking fights. I wouldn't have replied so rudely if you hadn't done the same. Rather than your comment offending me, I was worried that it was going to offend someone else. I was, ultimately, unnecessarily nosy. Let's just call it tit-for-tat and leave it at that, shall we? I apologise for being rude earlier, but I still wanted you to read my reply.

Anyhow, I hope that you can be kinder to people and not box them into labels. Sometimes we get so caught up in labels that we fail to see beyond them. Sometimes, things are just the way they are. I'm just speaking from personal experience, not a professional one. Take it or leave it, as they say.

I'm simply not good with words. I can't make up my sentences to be "caring". It's what it is.
Also the health of this person is not my responsability, so I just give him/her advise. If He/She takes it is up to that person. I don't think that have anything to do in how I write.

About the other thing: Just because you have bad experiences with psychologist before doesn't mean Psychology is wrong or people shouldn't seek help to cope with this kind of things.

It's as any science: There are people that doesn't care and there are people that are efficient and ethical.
Of course you need tou look for a -Good- therapist. Whoever won't do.
But still we need to understand how important is Mental healthnest and therapy.
And, more importantly: that people coping with this kind of situations can be complete and wholesome. Can be Happy. They don't need to agree with lose some parts of life. Because it's not normal, it can be helped.

Of course, everyone has the right to live as they want, but they need to make that desition for theirself after look all possibilities. That's all.

Of course I didn't just go to "whoever" (￣∇￣") Unfortunately in my case, I had to deal with the ones who were the best in their field.

Anyhow, enough about me; I've already said what I had to say about the definition of normal. The only thing I have left to say is that what I had to say earlier about the definition of normal can be applied to the definition of "complete" and "wholesome" as well.

Oh, well. It seems like I haven't been able to get my point across anyway. Adiós~!