Maybe cultural gap BUT

Reylla January 22, 2019 5:32 am

I like A'bai, but I think he's deeply wrong in the way he treated Zi Xi after he told about his illness. He got angry, to the point he ignored his friend for days, and made Zi Xi feel the need to seek him out and apologise when he literally didn't do anything wrong?! Yes, Zi Xi didn't tell A'bai about his problem... but tbh he was under no obligation to do so. They are friends alright, but that doesn't mean A'bai is entitled to every little piece of personal information about Zi Xi - he can choose what (and to whom) he tells about himself; and if he decides there are certain details he isn't comfortable sharing, it's no one's right to get mad since it's his own life. A'bai was in the wrong here, and I feel kinda bad that it was Zi Xi the one who had to apologise (and share all information as a way to appease his friend).

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    babyv02 January 22, 2019 6:26 am

    He had no right to be mad but I think it was more of he had to process everything. It was a lot to handle and after a day or two of processing he felt awkward and didn’t know how to interact with Zi Xi

    Sherlockfighter January 22, 2019 7:22 am

    I think it wasn't right but more than being angry I think he just didn't really know how to (re)start the conversation.

    Manaacass January 22, 2019 8:12 am

    What I think is that Abai knew that the "i dont want to talk to you no" was some big shit, only cause he thought that they were
    Best friends, he said he is not angry and that it was stupid, but he felt hurt.

    yuki January 24, 2019 1:28 am
    He had no right to be mad but I think it was more of he had to process everything. It was a lot to handle and after a day or two of processing he felt awkward and didn’t know how to interact with Zi Xi babyv02

    Yeah that happen

    Reylla January 24, 2019 4:56 am
    What I think is that Abai knew that the "i dont want to talk to you no" was some big shit, only cause he thought that they wereBest friends, he said he is not angry and that it was stupid, but he felt hurt. Manaacass

    I can totally understand him feeling hurt (the feeling of betrayal could be akin to finding out you're not the best friend of your own best friend), and I can even understand him getting angry AT THE MOMENT since, heck, we can't always control our feelings. But what got me really disappointed in A'bai is how he maintained his bad attitude, ignoring Zi Xi and making him feel like he had done this terrible awful thing. It was on A'bai to seek his friend, apologize for the outburst and then explain why he felt so hurt to begin with - ya know, like the adult he is. Instead, Zi Xi ends up doing the emotional labor, and he doesn't even hear an apology at all. I just felt A'bai acted like a spoiled 11 years old - which is not really a trait I'd look for on friends.

    Manaacass January 24, 2019 5:14 am
    I can totally understand him feeling hurt (the feeling of betrayal could be akin to finding out you're not the best friend of your own best friend), and I can even understand him getting angry AT THE MOMENT sin... Reylla

    But it was cause he felt embarased for the tantrum he made for something he hadnt need to be so big. So he couldnt apologize

    Ely February 20, 2019 3:24 am

    IKR!? Also, they haven't been friends for that long... I mean, I'd get A'bai if he had found out that someone whom he's been besties with for years didn't trust him enough and hid his condition from him, but come on!

    Good thing A'bai actually realized he was overreacting but it's a shame he still wasn't the one looking for Zi Xi to apologize :/