I mean if I were in any kind of relationship with someone they better tell me if they are leaving the country for several years so I can choose to continue this relationship or not. It was a completely shitty thing that he didn't tell him, it was kind of like just ignoring the omega dude's needs and his own future and potential relationships for his shitty alpha sexual needs, he was very very selfish in not telling him, especially since it looked like he knew he was going to China for a long time. Also, he really did not look like he was planning on telling him that he was leaving anyways. Also rape is rape my dude, just because you can't help it doesn't change that fact.
I mean, yeah, it was still rape, but if you're trying to make the argument that the scenario in which he purposely took him away while in heat with the intention of raping him is equally as bad as the scenario in which it was an accident then i can only think there is a problem there. As far as not telling him he's moving, maybe he was only starting to like him towards the end there? They met through rape... it's not like he'd immediately be in love. Maybe he thought they were just sex friends for a bit, and why would he tell someone he's just sleeping with something personal like that? They didn't seem to know each other long. Also, are we assuming he's only just now found out he's going to china? I imagine it was a decision made before the rape. If he had existing plans to go to china even before he met him then that changes things too.
I think you should consider other perspectives more. Just my thought. (▰˘◡˘▰)
I guess I should try to consider other people's perspective more but, here is the thing, to the person who was raped, it feels the same. Doesn't matter if it was intentional or unintentional to the victim. But, I suppose, this is just a story and the victim seems totally over it so I guess I should chill out on that aspect. It is just that, if I get raped and the dude is like "oh man, I literally couldn't control doing that to you, I am sorry," I would still press charges and we would go to court. And, if you read what I wrote, I mentioned that it seems like he had known about this decision to move to China for quite a while. And I also assumed that they were totally never in love, it was a purely sexual relationship, however it was an ongoing one right? I am just saying, if people are in any kind or stage of a relationship at all, they should tell the other person they are leaving, not only their loved ones right? This person is investing their time with you as well as a few emotions to a degree, telling them in advanced would help. This is just my perspective though,and it isn't always right.
Also, I just feel its kind of shitty not to tell the person you are in some sort of relationship with that you are leaving for an extended period of time.
I feel like you're basing your perspective on our reality though, you're saying that if a guy raped you and said he wasn't in control that you'd still press charges, but that isn't quite the reality of what happened if he's telling the truth. It's not just that he was out of control, it's also that the MC went into heat in the middle of a class of guys and their perspectives are probably different in that regard since alphas and omegas are an established societal norm. It's like, yes, if irl you were raped and the guy said sorry and that he was out of control you'd press charges, but would you react the same way if you were an omega, you knew how alphas literally can't control themselves around the pheromones you give off and you ended up in the situation that you'd been told could happen and had even been trained to avoid? Maybe, maybe not. I'm inclined to think people would be more understanding of this considering how humans view irl cases of heat/rape/knotting. Of course, that's not an entirely accurate comparison since there aren't any cases involving humans, it's just animals that still behave in this way instinctually. Notice how no one doea anything about it though? Cats, for example. A male cat will bite the back of a female's neck while she's in heat and rape her, but this is normal because we understand that it's just instinct. Maybe a good way to look at it is l, like, irl would you be mad if you and a guy were kidnapped and the kidnapper forced the guy to have sex with you? Because the situation is similar, in both cases the male is being controlled by an outside force.
Serial rapists also literally can not help themselves, they are under compulsion. They have mental health issues but alas, they are not lying either when they say they couldn't help but. But, you are right, it would probably be treated differently in this universe.
Serial rapists are mentally unstable, i wouldn't say that comparing mental disorders to instinct an accurate comparison. Instinct is born of biology and the need to procreate is what leads to instincts like what cats or, in this case, alphas show.
When female cats are in heat, their goal is to procreate and at that point they are willing to do it with the male cat. The male cat as well only approaches the female when she is in heat. A male cat would not approach a female that is not in heat. Females in heat go out to prowl for a mate as well. Unlike humans, felines don't actually have sex for pleasure, once again, their only goal is to reproduce. It was not an unwilling event. It was not rape for the cats. They think and feel differently from humans. Why it looks like the female cat is in distress is probably because of the spikes in the male's penis. Those can irritate the female cat and therefore she would swipe him after the deed is done. It is a reaction to the pain. The spikes are there to possibly increase ovulation. And the male cat only knots to get a higher chance for the egg to actually fertilize. So after the male cat ejaculates, it is the females decision on whether or not she wants that male's specific sperm because she can immediately leave. If she does immediately leave it is highly likely that his sperm would not fertilize the egg. She must stay awhile. It is actually very dangerous for male cats to rape female cats and it is extremely uncommon. This would be because the female will fight aggressively on her back with all four paws and the male cat would have only two as his hind legs would be on the floor, if he injures his paw he will be unlikely to be able to hunt for a while and actually starve. And yeah, male acts, they do the whole neck biting thing too to make the female stay, basically cat procreation is unpleasant but not unwanted and happens only when the female is in heat. Gah, I am tired of this argument, I guess let's agree to disagree. See ya!
https://www.petplace.com/article/cats/vet-qa-parent/vet-qa/can-an-intact-male-cat-sexually-assault-my-spayed-cat/
Did you just google cat mating habits for this? More importantly, all that^ "isn't rape"? What? :^D Okay, whatever makes your argument right. If you want to stop then we can.
I'm holding off on hating him for now. It looked like he raped him on purpose, but if he was just overcome like he said then it was an accident. He apologized after. My whole issue is that i don't think he was telling the truth. He was out of control, but took him home instead of just raping him where they stood? He used condoms? The way he was talking too, it came across sketchy. He was asking him questions while raping him like it was nothing, didn't look torn up about what was happening during, just after. We'll see if it was all intentional soon. Him going to China can't really be helped, it's for his future. I won't hold that against him if he's not flippant about leaving the MC behind.