The girl's reasons for dumping the guy was pretty shallow and pretentious. It's not the guy's fault that she was not able to follow his fast signing. And why should we always be conforming to society just because it is the majority? That's stupid. If the majority of people were deaf than it would have been the other way around. Abd making an excuse that she can't date a guy who has a handicapped relative is dumb as hell, too. That is the true definition of shallow. As if the boy can help he has deaf brother. How dumb can she be? She should have been upfront from the beginning instead of pretending to care.
Who said she was pretending?
If she had really been shallow, she wouldn't have dated him in the first place. The kid said they were together since high school. And it is not shallow to get away from something you can't handle.
Are you saying that everyone should just think of themselves and not care about anyone around them? That is called selfish. Close minded. and being a JERK.
There is a large difference between compromising and conforming. Being good to the people around you is what mature adults do. We see and accept the differences in each other. That is how you create a society.
I don't care that the kid is deaf. I'd have smacked him upside the head. The way he treats people is awful.
She tried and failed. Get out before you hurt him and yourself.
Plus, I'm sure there is a guy that you want to pair him up with. She would have just been in the way.
Actually, from what I read, they've been dating since college but the point is do we really as a society accept other differences? No, we don't. Look at the world we live in today, society is made up of people of all types of people but is ruled by the people who are the majority. For example, the majority of society is made up of people who can see, hear, speak, are right-handed, average to tall height etc. If you fall in the minority you have to adjust your life to how your environment and society functions. And the people who are the majority always expects you as the minority to always conform to their wishes and that which makes them feel comfortable. That is how it always is and that in and of itself is selfish as well. So why can't the handicapped people also be selfish as well sometimes?
Not to mention, if she felt the way she felt she did she could have simply sat together with the younger brother, her boyfriend and herself (like they've always done before) and discussed it out long before she felt like she could not keep up with them. She probably thought with her telling him what she wanted he would just shut up and listen to her. That is arrogance that people who can hear and have no disabilities expect from those who do have disabilities. She was not expecting him to say what he said and because she did not like what he said she decides to break up with the brother. If she did not want to deal with the younger brother anymore than that would have been perfectly fine but to practically go blaming their breakup on the younger brother is a copout, in my opinion. She is blaming her own shortcomings and the breakup on the brother which up until that point had done nothing wrong. He mostly started rebelling after all of this
And to put salt on the wound she claims how her father doesn't like her dating someone who has a handicapped relative. As if her father did not know all along that she had been dating that boy all this time? Did he suddenly find out and said that crap? I don't believe that for a minute. Her father knew and was probably bad talking them and saying all this shit behind their back and she said nothing about it throughout the years they were dating and why is that? Only when she wanted to dump him she brings up this excuse because she was probably thinking the same exact thing in her mind especially when she was starting to get insecure about their relationship. I really dislike people like that.
All I read from your comments is you want to hate her and are justifying your own opinion.
I don't hate her. I feel sorry for her. Hopefully they will both find people better suited to them.
And you can think whatever you want about my comment. I never said I hated her. Hate is a strong word. There is no need to hate a fictional character. I dislike her and the way she handled the situation. I have no sympathy for her. I have more sympathy for people like the younger brother that has to deal with people like you and her who don't seem to understand their situation. You also seem to only want to see things your way and not see the bigger picture. Disabled people have to deal with people like that all day long just because they are different. Why can't we abled people be a little bit more accommodating instead of thinking they are a nuisance. They probably think us abled people nuisance to since they always have to try being accommodating to us although we don't want do the same nor show understanding to their circumstances. Did you not see how many people badmouthed the younger brother when he was younger just because his older brother paid a lot of attention to him and brought him along with him? And what was wrong with his brother caring for him when everyone else tried to neglect him, even their own parents were no better. Maybe I am a bit more understanding and I am minority myself which is why I see the things way I do and you don't. But oh, well whatever.
I understand the REALITY of handicap people. As I said in the very beginning. I have a blind family member and a deaf family member. They do not feel sorry for themselves or complain that the "world" isn't fair. I complain more than they do. Since, I have experience with real handicap people, I cannot feel much sympathy for the boy, as he has been written in this story. He is awful.
You think you are the only one who has handicapped family members? Both my mother and father are handicapped and I have to help take care of them. Not to mention, I have had handicapped friends and have been around a lot of handicapped people. You will not truly know how they feel and what they have gone through if you are not 100% involved in their situation. So no matter how much you claim that you have handicapped family members how much are you really involved and know about what they have to deal with on the daily? Unless it is your own child or parent that has this handicapped you will not really understand.
So, he got dumped. So what?
I dumped a guy because he kissed bad. And I was dumped because I didn't get jealous enough.
We all have reasons why a relationship doesn't work out. Her reasons are way less shallow then most. Relationships are tough.
Personally, I think the kid is a brat. The rest of the world has to be concerned with what everyone around us feel & want. But he lives his life however he wants with no care as to how it disrupts the world around him. So he has a disability, that isn't an excuse. I had one blind & 1 deaf family members. They were full members of society, so I don't have much sympathy.