None of that matters

If we can read all this yaoi about previously straight men suddenly falling in love with other men, why should anyone get so worked up about a previously gay man falling in love with a woman. Sometimes two people have a connection that transcends gender and orientation and even sex. Maybe we all need to label everyone because relationships that fall outside of the boundaries that we've put around ourselves and others forces us to.

Think of your best friend, the closest friend you've ever had, someone whose gender isn't one that you would be sexually attracted to normally, and really think about what it would feel like to be intensely, intimately, physically connected to that person as closely as you are emotionally. If you didn't have any hangups. If you didn't feel any shame. If it wasn't at all awkward. Without making it about having an orgasm, think about the touching their skin and being touched by them and how connected you would feel if you could lay in each other's arms in complete peace and contentment, just feeling one another's heartbeat and listening to their breathing...

And then explain to me why you are arguing about why this boy doesn't deserve to find that kind of peace if it happens to come attached to a vagina.