Am I weird?or this manga was just wayyy unreal

shika October 24, 2019 2:54 am

I have a question I seriously can't understand how how do people have this ability to separate sexual acts or physical intimacy from love or emotions/needs/insecurities/attachments???
The protagonist have these physical intimacy and sexual encounters with many random strangers eventhough they don't like these strangers (they called those girls annoying , whore, ...as if they were just sex toys) how can the two protagonists have sex and even kiss these girl whom they don't even like???...I'm so not normal maybe....

The two protagonists have sex with random strangers like crazy to the point of a disease it exceeded the natural urge for copulation...it reached a point where it reminded me of the movie Shame2011( about sex addiction)
In this manga the two protagonists were ridiculous...their love came out of nowhere and it kind of felt like the seme realized his feelings for uke after he had anal with him...doesn't it make his feelings fake or not genuine? If both the uke and seme saw each other differently after anal ,then doesn't it mean they just direct their

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    Ladyluck December 21, 2019 12:37 am

    :3 If the act of sex never meant anything more to you than feeling good it’s easy. You’ve read about the seme and ukes past. Growing up in a household like that I wasn’t surprised. I don’t know why you have so many thumbs down for asking a genuine question though.

    shika December 23, 2019 10:48 am
    :3 If the act of sex never meant anything more to you than feeling good it’s easy. You’ve read about the seme and ukes past. Growing up in a household like that I wasn’t surprised. I don’t know why you ... Ladyluck

    Well I don't agree that if it's nothing more than good feeling.
    Physical intimacy spikes hormones such as oxytocin and chemicals such as dopamine and other things which makes people happy safe dependent. Add to these chemicals the mental style of attachments then sex is no longer something like drinking coffee together.
    If sex could be completely separated from realm of emotions , then there would not be so many rules and boundaries and emphasis on communication in non monogamous relationships such as swinging or open ones.

    lostikins December 26, 2019 8:17 am
    Well I don't agree that if it's nothing more than good feeling.Physical intimacy spikes hormones such as oxytocin and chemicals such as dopamine and other things which makes people happy safe dependent. Add to ... shika

    As someone who's mother worked in the sex industry for 10 years it is very easy for certain types of people to separate their emotions from sexual encounters. Yeah, the chemicals are all there but by the end of the act they most dissipate and both parties walk away physically satisfied. I have a psychologist friend who is the same way. He's able to separate the physical feel good from the emotional feel good. One night stands are a common thing for him but he's also physically capable of having a healthy relationship.

    Then there are those who feel disgusted with having sex. The chemicals aren't there for them and at the end they feel more disgusted with having done it than without. I am in this category. It all just depends on the person. Instead of feeling the good and comforting emotions afterwards I go into post-intercourse depression and mostly cut ties with the person I have slept with. There has only been two instances where I didn't have this issue but both relationships ended eventually.

    Sex or physical relationships aren't the same for every single person.

    shika December 30, 2019 5:24 am
    As someone who's mother worked in the sex industry for 10 years it is very easy for certain types of people to separate their emotions from sexual encounters. Yeah, the chemicals are all there but by the end of... lostikins

    I've read a thread on reddit about how people have one night stands and sex friends without emotionally getting involved....it was stuuupid
    For example someone said I immediately think of my grandmother when I get emotional connections during sex with a sex friend.... or most people said we will cut ties with them...when you cut ties with a sex friend the moment you personalize her/him or start seeing them in different light , then up until now you have been using each other as objects of masturbation...just like Slavoj Žižek quoted.

    I think that first of all sex industry is not a representation of sexual activities....
    And separating sex from realm of emotions is more a trick and disconnection between body/soul rather than a capability.

    lostikins December 30, 2019 5:52 am
    I've read a thread on reddit about how people have one night stands and sex friends without emotionally getting involved....it was stuuupid For example someone said I immediately think of my grandmother when I ... shika

    Your first mistake was getting info off of reddit lol

    And before my mom was in that line of work she often had one night stands or multiple sex friends at once-- which led her to working in that kind of way.

    There's no definite way of telling for sure how the human mind works. Proof of this is ongoing studies about genders and sexual preferences. We can't know for sure how someone is going to react to something or think about something. What happens for one doesn't happen the same way for another. For people to dismiss the possibility of those who can have sex without emotional attachment is kind of silly.

    But to each their own lol