Also you don't know me, don't be too quick to assume anything about my life. You don't know whether I've been through a trauma or not. Also don't act like you're oh so knowledgeable. You do the same as those guys you're talking about do, show sympathy only with the brothers and directly placing the girl into the position of the villain lol you do the same but reverse. You're not better and you definitely don't know more to judge others.
I never said I was talking about you but clearly this needs to be said.
Avoidance could have been your coping mechanism ( assuming you yourself have trauma) and it’s reasonable and common.
However so is bullying. At the current stage the kids are in, this isn’t abuse. They are frustrated and don’t know how to deal with their emotions so they are releasing their feelings onto Hari, and they do it to Hari because they know a lot of their negative feelings came from her arrival.
As common as avoidance is, bullying is also an unhealthy but common coping mechanism.
And as you said, you shouldn’t be so quick to judge others for how they deal with things if you yourself haven’t been in their situation or felt with their emotions.
I’ve said this already but I’m not villainizing Hari. I understand she went through a lot but she is an adult now and her behavior isn’t ok. I understand she’s trying to convince herself it’s a dream but she’s being selfish and hurting the boys more.
Eugene was slapped in the face by his BIOLOGICAL FATHER, because she wanted to eat a candy she KNEW was important and sentimental to him.
I’m not acting, I am knowledgeable. I’ve learned through personal experience and seen from outside perspective while these things happened to people Ik. Not that you would’ve known but I’ve also studied the psychology.
This IS understandable behavior. It’s not healthy and they should be corrected but it makes since why they retaliated this way
Emotion can’t always be explained dude. He’s still young and working his way through the mourning process. I think you should see how the story will continue to progress. As an Older And Younger sister, just explaining won’t always work.
And how exactly is she making things worse? She's only getting close with them, not making them believe she is their dead sister as i said in my previous text in case you didn't read it. And yes, bullying IS abuse. Also, anyone can say is knowledgeable but this doesn't necessarily make you that. Well, go ahead believe what you want, it's your opinion I'll respect that but you should also respect mine. This discussion is getting nowhere, i stand to my own opinion and you can stand to yours. That's all from me.
Also i wasn't talking about me exactly, i was talking about the people you spoke of in general, it's a figure of speech.
I get that what the parents did was not right, replacing a dead person but still the behaviour of these children is unacceptable. Blaming her for just existing, even tho she didn't nothing wrong is beyond ridiculous. I know they are children but still this type of cruelty is not excused, especially towards a person that they knew she used to have no family and living in the streets. Just a tad bit of sympathy wouldn't be bad.