Aaaamen
that's why i was pleasantly surprise with 'The Sensual M'. it's not yaoi nor smutty, but i invite youall to read it if u want to learn about the true dynamics of these kind of relationships.
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_sensual_m/
Exactly, couldn't have said it better. As a dom myself i find this sort of contract beyond ridiculous. A proper, healthy bdsm relationship is created by the trust that both parties are pleased, and a safeword is absolutely the most important part in it. The sub should have the freedom to express what he/she doesn't like during a foreplay or a situation could end up traumatizing and unpleasant. Even rape play has boundaries. As you said, the dom was absolutely disrespectful towards the sub in this webtoon, it really got on my nerves.
The mangaka really needs to go on fetlife or some shit because this honestly has some sexy BDSM elements but the relationship is bloody unbalanced. That's what's really wrong with this whole manhwa. Most Doms are not interested in being manipulative weirdos because they get plenty sexual gratification from taking care of the sub and giving them what they want. This whole idea of Doms being sociopathic douches is so 50 shades of bullshit and I'm tired of it.
The thing that makes me more mad about this one is that it honestly has so much damn potential. Yes there is too much emotional manipulation for this to be a healthy BDSM couple but you can tell the bottom legit likes being a sub, he even says in his thoughts that he likes it. The problem is he's still also doing it to be accepted and that's not a good sign, especially considering the Dom is a selfish prick who doesn't respect him. The MC could have found a healthy way to explore the kink w/ a better person but NOPE that would make too much sense I guess.
As a sub I do find the porn appealing because I love the idea of servicing a Dom from long distances, that amount of absolute control can be quite sexy. I understand why the MC likes it because it can be liberating to give someone else the reins. My problem is he ran into the worst fucking Dom possible. The dude's contract is an insult to the BDSM community. There /was/ a weak attempt at setting boundaries since the sub has to initiate the scene but how is the sub supposed to stop the play, huh? Where the fuck is the safe word Mr. I-Don't-Like-To-Hear-No?
Now, it is possible that the mangaka is going the badguy Dom route and I think they might've made him a shit Dom on purpose but honestly it doesn't matter, the BDSM community doesn't need even more media demonizing our community. What we DO need is more healthy, accurate, and positive depictions of our community. This manhwa just perpetuates stereotypes about Doms and it irritates me ngl
DAMMIT if only the Dom wasn't trash. If only fucking Japanese and Korean mangakas knew how to write a balanced and equal BDSM couple. This could've been gold.