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« Feel the need to keep repeating their mistakes » what mistakes did he make the uke was a victim of this situation as much as shougo? yes he isn’t mentally stable (not mentally ill tho cuz that’s what u making it sound) but that is all due to the fact that he was manipulated. See how the other seme got to play with his mind? Of course this would have to happen this is what many victims of abuse go through. The uke finally found someone who was treating him how he deserved but he was madly in love with his abusive ex and was the only lover he ever had how could he imagine a life without him? I just don’t understand why you think he can’t be happy with shougo and recover? Does it look like to you that he will cheat in the future? When did he even imply that? You talking as if he was a type of maso when he wanted to run away from the abuse so bad. « hes so mentally messed up that he felt happy as he was cheating on shougo. » cheating on shougo? you don’t look like you understood the story very well but can’t blame you if you cannot understand the VICTIM’s situation because on top of that you making it seem as if the uke wasn’t completely a victim because he is sweetie. Whew

Yes, he was a victim, but he still went to meet him knowing he is weak to him.

My point is that victims of rape and abuse tend to relive their pasts. They feel the need to constantly look for abusers. They arent healed by the "power of love". He is very much still mentally damaged. Look how quick he went back to his abuser. He is reliving his past over and over again.

Just look at the people you know that continually date losers, they are trying to relive their past choices. I'm not attacking him and saying he isnt a victim. i am saying the seme deserves a partner that can be loyal to him. And the uke should focus on severe mental health assistance before worrying about finding love.

No girl I don’t have much knowledge on victims constantly looking for new abusers but that ain’t it in this story clearly the uke is tormented by it and wants to get away from it deep in his heart asap. And I really don’t get what makes you think that the uke is a potential cheater like this whole point you made doesn’t make sense just because he got back to his ex because he was MANIPULATED into it makes him a cheater towards shougo ? No it does not because once again he was manipulated into doing so. So you can think as a personal opinion that the uke should heal BUT he is finally freaking free from his abuser and toxic relationship and found a partner as amazing as him who will help him heal with time. I mean he loves him we ain’t talking about the « magic of love » like this bas been going on for a while and they’re genuine feelings. You making it seem like the uke is taking advantage of the seme.

you are clearly very young. it has nothing to do with the uke taking advantage of anyone. i will leave my above comment as is.

shut the fuck up. "you're clearly very young" bc they pointed out your victim-blaming? mitsuru went to meet kouichi to tell him it was over for good, then got raped, and manipulated by kouichi once again. you're 100% wrong and that's on that.

i hope you read the link i sent you. the fact that you are cursing someone out you disagree with is unnecessarily disrespectful. In the manga itself he admits to having lingering feelings for his previously partner. He didnt need to meet him alone to end things. He felt compelled to meet him, because he was repeating his past trauma. its not fair for either of them to continue this relationship without therapy.

for anyone else thats curious read up this article just google: Patterns of Abuse & The Repetition of Trauma by Lauren Reiff.

Again, anyone that feels a desire to continually seek out abusive relationships, please get help.

You do know that normally, they could've do a lot more things like shougo helping mitsuru to get over his past abuse by seeking professional help. Why are you determining that abuse victim MUST and WILL relapse and seeking for abusive relationship their whole life? There's a whole other spectrum in how other than love of course, realistically speaking, Shougo could love him enough to stay with mitsuru and help him heal with professional help. All in all, what are you trying to say?

No one can force you to get professional help. I was posting the link because people didnt seem to understand the pattern that abuse victims end up in. I have no interest in arguing. This story showed how the pattern works. Also, i said he could get better with therapy, but that wasnt mentioned in the story. People tend to avoid therapy because they are afraid.

You seemed to lack positivity in your life.
Let's try to make it so that going to therapy and seeking professional help a normal thing to do.

Sorry I'm not trying to argue but I hope that even with statistic, you can't just assume the victim pattern in handling their abuse.

You don't even know me. I said in my post they I hope people get help. But it's reality that many people don't. This is just a manga in real life people go back to abusers they relapse in their addictions. I always hope and pray people can change, and some do. Just being realistic.

Im not responding anymore. People are just repeating themselves and getting offended over facts.

This is my last comment. Please refer to my posts above if anyone wants to know my option.