It's funny to see your single minded vision of rape : "rape committed by farmer teddy boy down the street". So you think rape is something violent with a stranger in a dark alley ? That is such a big stereotype we have here. Did you know that 8 times out of 10, the victims know their rapists ? For example, many are raped by their own boyfriends but they're in big denial and you know why ? They believe that it cannot be a rape because it doesn't look like a "real rape" you know... the one you were talking about, the typical stereotypical rape with the "teddy boy down the street". Secondly they make up some excuses because their boyfriends love them and obviously this the victim fault because she/he should want it too since it's their boyfriend and if not, it means that they don't really love them lol. Don't you think it's funny, how a "grown ass adult" can be in such a denial about something which is supposed to be super obvious ? She/he says no, she/he cries, the bf forces himself on her/him, and even after all that, she/he doesn't says it's rape. You know what helps nourish this behavior ? What nourish this denial ? Actually many things, but out of all those things there is rape culture. This shit minimized, normalized, justified, or (even worse) romanticize rape. And you know... rape culture spawn a way of thinking. Omegaverse is a good example but let's talk about yaoi in general. Many yaoi tend to justified and romanticized rape and toxic relationships and readers don't even realize that what they're reading is actually rape (because it's not the stereotypical one we were talking about earlier) or that some of the relationships are super toxic because they're paint as something super steamy and cute so obviously some of the readers will not even be aware of what they're actually reading. They'll unconsciously integrate some bad behaviors which are paint as something hot and/or romantic and accept them in real life. You basically say that you know the difference between fiction and reality. But do you ? I mean, you have a stereotypical vision of rape which you believe is "reality" whereas there is many behaviors in fiction that men actually use (the exact same ones) in real life to rape people. And those people are so unaware and oblivious that they don't realized when a person is toxic, when they are raped or when they're in a big denial. If you believe that you can read with some distances and really differentiate fiction and reality that is good for you but don't forget that you're not the only one reading this. And many can think that a "real rape" is only "committed by farmer teddy boy down the street" and that this scene isn't rape. Some of them might integrate unconsciously some shitty morals such as "even if you don't want it now, you'll feel really good eventually" or "you say no but your body want it" or some shit like this, even if they're "grown ass adults". I think it's a good thing that people keep reminding when there is rape. And if you can really put some distance and differentiate fiction and reality, comments like this one shouldn't bother you since you're supposed to be aware of all of this. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Sweetheart I'm sorry you spent so much time typing your novel but I dont have the energy to indulge in your ignorant rant. I was raped at 16 and I thought it was my fault because it wasnt forced. It wasnt consensual either. But it wasnt violent by any means. Now shoo
The fact that you're dismissing this person by saying you didn't have the 'energy' to read really shows how immature you are.
I'm sorry that you had to experience something as awful as this but I don't really know what you mean by it wasn't forced but it wasn't consensual?
I think you opened up the possibility to recieve 'rants' when you commented, perhaps you weren't looking for conversation?
I was raped too darling and what is it supposed to add to this debate ? And if you had the "energy to read my novel" you would have see that I talk about this kind of rape (the one you had when you were 16). I'm far from being ignorant and your attitude is clearly childish and immature. You just want to be right without reading the facts that are against your sayings just because you don't want to admit that you might be saying some shit. (Besides, I'm sorry for what happened to you).
Damn, thanks (╯°Д °)╯╧╧ .
Force but not consensual = when for example your boyfriend manipulates you by making you feel guilty, blackmails you, uses some psychological pressures to have sex with you. You eventually says yes when you actually don't really want to at the first place.
Reading the comments makes me feel like I'm back in an 8th grade abstinence class. I'm a grown ass adult who knows the difference in rape in a comic book and rape committed by farmer teddy boy down the street. Now if we want to talk about how fuckong bizarre this comic is that I can fucking get behind. This shit is wild.