Lol, I think that this is relationship is one where it's like, "I'm not gay but if it's you, I don't mind."
As a bisexual, I really appreciate this rant. I agree with you.
I agree with this so much.
Quoting you,
"This is only fictional and I'm in too deep into BL culture that I tend to brush off whatever causes me discomfort. Nevertheless, I love this story and I will come back to it. I was not making judgments to stories that have this trope, I was simply just saying that I'm kinda turned off by it... but I'm turned off by rape and I read alot of those stories so... lol,"
that whole paragraph is my entire BL journey. I hope authors start turning to a different direction in regards to the whole "straight" trope in BL (and the entire rape to love trope, which is another species of its own)
This is a long rant. You've been warned! Lol
Don't get mad at me, y'all... but is the uke bisexual or straight?
Let's be real, having bisexual characters and representation is awesome. And straight people fall in love with people of the same sex, it does happen even if that person still identifies as straight. Sexuality is not so black and white, okay?
HOWEVER, I am honestly curious about the uke. The extra (end of chapter 4) shows us that his "stash"/porn is of women, no mention of any men. That is completely fine. But this made me wonder about his self-identified sexuality. I'm not making any judgments on him, I was honestly curious. But this isn't the point I will rant about.
THEN, this made me think about how I kinda hate the straight guy trope. The "I'm not gay but I am gay only for you" trope. I hate this because it can have negative repercussions and outlooks to people who are bisexual. It's fine to self identify as straight and have relationships with people of the same sex, but what rubs me the wrong way is saying "I don't like men, but I like you because you are you." Isn't that partner's own self identity as a man really important to who they are as a person? I don't know, I just really dislike the stigma a lot of this trope plays into the opposition of bisexuality. I love when people transcend sexuality and love people for who they are but sometimes... I wish yaoi would stop stigmatizing topics such as bisexuality. What's wrong with having gay people fall in love? What's wrong with having bisexual people fall in love? Why are straight people always the focus, as if they are exotic animals that are meant to be won over and trained? I want stories about men falling in love with men. I want gay lovers. I want toxic masculinity to be thrown away. Straight people are great (I'm straight too lol) but I want to hear the stories about love from people who are often marginalized. Having love stories from characters who are straight who by chance fall in love with a person of the same sex is great but it's feels like I'm watching an exotic animal being conquered lol. I don't know, am I making this too big of a deal? Am I thinking too much? Lol, I tend to do that.
But what can I say? This is only fictional and I'm in too deep into BL culture that I tend to brush off whatever causes me discomfort. Nevertheless, I love this story and I will come back to it. I was not making judgments to stories that have this trope, I was simply just saying that I'm kinda turned off by it... but I'm turned off by rape and I read alot of those stories so... lol
Sorry for this long rant, I just needed to get this off my back.