
Yeah I'm not gay or a man so I couldn't relate but it always sat weird with me. Like isn't a partner chosen based on how their original gender appeals to a person?

People can be bisexual

Imo it's cause lots of mangaka have a terrible understanding of same-sex relationships to the point of having borderline homophobic views despite drawing BL. That's why the whole masculine seme/feminine uke dynamic is so set in stone instead of having vers characters ("because the bottom character is playing the female, duh"), and there's the terrible "I love you for who you are, not for your gender" trope, which maybe makes sense for pan/bi folks but not the majority of "straight-turned-gay" (which is totally bs) characters. I mean, sure, physical appearance isn't everything when it comes to attraction but it's definitely super super important!

forgot to add but to be fair not everyone is masc for masc n all that shit. like some gay guys may be perfectly fine with/attracted to femme gay guys. doesnt mean they like pussy all of a sudden bc theyre still into a guy with traditionally feminine clothes, hair, mannerisms, etc. one of my close friends isnt femme per se but he is very often mistaken for a woman (i dont rlly see it but ig its because were close lol) and he still pulls gay guys. but of course this is all just irl stuff. when it comes to fiction written by straight women its usually bc they straight up don't understand gay relationships and always go for shitty tropes that border on heteronormative lol (i have seen far to many bl where the mc is basically just a shoujo manga heroine with a dick slapped on. short, skinny, weak, obnoxiously shy uwu type of shit. u get the gist haha)

I understand... i am what you would call feminine looking even though im 6’0 which is y i stated in op that i have dressed as a slutty maid n its not completely lost on me... but i still find it kinda weird... n i find it uncomfortable when a guy constantly wants me to dress girly... but i find thats more in bi men or pan men... not gay men
I never got how your bf dressing like a girl made them more attractive.... im gay i like guys i like seeing you as a guy... its ao confusing to me...
Sn: i have dressd as a slutty maid b4 so its not completely lost on me but still confusing