The hell that is childbirth

Kou May 1, 2020 5:21 am

My older sister moved in with me when she was about to give birth in 2018. Everything was fine except the due date passed yet no sign of labor in sight. The baby was growing big and it had become difficult for her to move around. We were advised by the doctor to induce. We arrived in the hospital late evening. I wasn't allowed to stay with her. They were planning to induce at around 11 pm and logically she should be giving birth by early morning.
She started contractions at about 1pm. She crowned at 5am. But she couldn't push out the baby. I came to the hospital at about 7 am. She was still in painful contractions and couldn't push the baby. The doctor assured me that it was normal and she would give birth any time. Fast forward to 12pm, my sister still experiencing horrible contractions with screams that haunt me to date and she still had not given birth. The baby's heartbeat disappeared. Only then was she taken for surgery. Her uterus was already tearing and the baby was a stillbirth. And I was the only one there with her. They did C-section and we found out that the baby had stayed crowned for too long therefore the pelvis had squeezed her head and she couldn't make it.
So I am there with my sister out of surgery scared to tell her she lost the baby but she already knew. What broke my heart was that she didn't want to cry because she thought she should be strong for me her younger sister. She had lost her baby, almost died, but was trying to be strong for me. It haunted me for months when I remembered her trying to smile at the nurses and doctors.
Her c-section wound took longer to heal because of the loss of the baby. Since she was taking meds to stop the breast milk, her body was trying to find ways to release it so she would sweat heavily and it would smell like a new born baby. It was hell.
Sorry to tell you all this. This story sort of reminded me of that. Hosik bleeding reminded me of one night where she started bleeding heavily (post the stillbirth) and we had to rush to the hospital at midnight.

Responses
    PotatoPotatoe May 1, 2020 5:35 am

    My condolences

    liza May 1, 2020 5:41 am

    So sorry dear

    Pip May 1, 2020 5:42 am

    Awe, i'm sorry.

    Anonymous May 1, 2020 5:43 am

    Oh no. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

    Fujoshi2Deep May 1, 2020 7:33 am

    My heart goes to you and your sister. Although I don't know how or where you guys are at in your journeys of healing. But I want you to know my heart is with you guys, sending love and positive vibes. I pray you guys will never have to go through something as tragisc ever again <3

    Fayee May 1, 2020 3:10 pm

    I'm so sorry, that's tragic ,I hope she will never go through that again

    Anonymous May 1, 2020 3:57 pm

    I hope she sued the ass out of the hospital and would be able to have another baby.... and NEVER.EVER.IN.THAT.SORRY.EXCUSE.OF.A.HOSPITAL !!!!!

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:06 pm
    My condolences PotatoPotatoe

    Thank you

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:06 pm
    So sorry dear liza

    Thank you sweetie

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:07 pm
    Awe, i'm sorry. Pip

    Much appreciated. We doing better now.

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:07 pm
    Oh no. Thanks for sharing your story with us. @Anonymous

    Thank you for listening.

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:09 pm
    My heart goes to you and your sister. Although I don't know how or where you guys are at in your journeys of healing. But I want you to know my heart is with you guys, sending love and positive vibes. I pray yo... Fujoshi2Deep

    Thank you for the support. It is much better now than then. The guilt from my side for not fighting hard to her moved to surgery sooner waned over time. I came to accept that it was not my fault. On her case, she can talk about the baby. Previously she wouldn't say a word. Thanks once again.

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:09 pm
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    Much appreciated. I pray so too. In the near future.

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:10 pm
    I'm so sorry, that's tragic ,I hope she will never go through that again Fayee

    Thank you dear. I pray she also never goes through that. And hope no woman experiences the same.

    Kou May 2, 2020 12:12 pm
    I hope she sued the ass out of the hospital and would be able to have another baby.... and NEVER.EVER.IN.THAT.SORRY.EXCUSE.OF.A.HOSPITAL !!!!! @Anonymous

    I was thinking of suing back then but we were broke. The lawyer cited the fees at 1500 usd. We couldn't afford. My sister wanted to focus on forgetting the whole experience so I didn't push. Thank you. I pray she also has a safe delivery next time she has a baby.

    Fujoshi2Deep May 2, 2020 11:25 pm
    Thank you for the support. It is much better now than then. The guilt from my side for not fighting hard to her moved to surgery sooner waned over time. I came to accept that it was not my fault. On her case, s... Kou

    Super glad to know you guys are doing better :) If you ever need an ear my DMs are always open <3 Hoping yall continue to stay safe in this time and age. Much love~