Okay hear me out. I don't want to be insensitive or anything but i don't understand what w...

Grapefruit.soda May 2, 2020 8:39 pm

Okay hear me out. I don't want to be insensitive or anything but i don't understand what was so bad about what the ex said? Like it sounds like a generic answer to a uncomfortable question? Did it get lost in translation? Am i stupido? • ‿ ,•

Responses
    Oliver May 2, 2020 9:15 pm

    LOL ME NEITHER I don't get it

    CTHunter May 2, 2020 9:17 pm

    My thoughts exactly. Personally, I wouldn't be mad but maybe he got hurt because it was a sensitive matter for him? Or something along the lines of don't kiss and tell.

    Yazi May 2, 2020 9:25 pm

    ikk cause like if someone asked ur bf if u were good in bed of course he would get uncomfortable and weirded out bc ur his girlfriend and why would someone ask sum like that so obviously he wouldn't answer him and change the conversation and what happens in the bed is only for YOU mad your BF now one else (づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ

    Grapefruit.soda May 2, 2020 9:31 pm
    My thoughts exactly. Personally, I wouldn't be mad but maybe he got hurt because it was a sensitive matter for him? Or something along the lines of don't kiss and tell. CTHunter

    I guess it could be that. Maybe he is sensitive about "being good at everything"? Lol i cant relate, still don't get it but oh well we are all different

    jadeghost May 2, 2020 9:58 pm

    I think it can be interpreted in one of two ways. 1) he doesn't want his sex life to be made public or 2) it can maybe come off as him being good at sex is the only reason they're together.

    CTHunter May 2, 2020 11:57 pm
    I think it can be interpreted in one of two ways. 1) he doesn't want his sex life to be made public or 2) it can maybe come off as him being good at sex is the only reason they're together. jadeghost

    Ooh yeah thank you. I didn't consider the second option.

    hersheycoco May 3, 2020 12:16 am

    I guess maybe he didn’t defend the part where his bf gets around a lot. I’ll take it to a personal level. If the guy I love had a friend or mom talk about me in any type of way that was sorta bad. And he just deflected the conversation or casually passed by it. It would make me sad bc he won’t call out that behavior and it comes off as passive. I wouldn’t be mad but sad. If I’m thinking of people who will be there for me and he does that I can’t see that person as a long term partner.

    Rn I’m envisioning this YouTube couple, Korean husband and a black/Japanese wife who recently had a child. The mom doesn’t recognize the wife as someone who is worth her son (esp due to her color) and dismissed her and the child. She also says insults. He just listens to what his mom says and doesn’t defend his wife he’s more passive with it. A lot to do with the culture so that’s fine. But for my partner I would wish he respect his mom as well as put a boundary there of speaking ill of his wife.



    So that’s how I envision why he may be saddened/upset even if I do agree I didn’t expect it to be over an issue like that-like that upset by it. I’d be more disappointed.

    Grapefruit.soda May 3, 2020 9:15 am
    I guess maybe he didn’t defend the part where his bf gets around a lot. I’ll take it to a personal level. If the guy I love had a friend or mom talk about me in any type of way that was sorta bad. And he ju... hersheycoco

    Oh my god that's terrible! I know it's a different culture but he seriously lacks a backbone, i feel so bad for her. Thanks for the input, i think you might be right about this

    hersheycoco May 6, 2020 2:57 am
    Oh my god that's terrible! I know it's a different culture but he seriously lacks a backbone, i feel so bad for her. Thanks for the input, i think you might be right about this Grapefruit.soda

    Yeah but I seem to be the minority to think that besides his parents, they seem happy and with a baby. But I know respecting elders is like strong there. ESP your own parents even if you disagree