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I think it’s more that she’s letting it happen rather than initiating anything. Sometimes it’s important to draw boundaries so that people prevent getting hurt, or at least show in some way to stop them from continuing with body language. If he confesses clearly and she politely declines and it ends there cleanly, that would be smooth too.
I think it's a bit annoying because she obviously notices there's chemistry with the ml but hasn't acknowledged her feelings yet and she is leading on the 2nd ml. 2nd ml's actions alone are enough to see that he likes her. She has been in a relationship before so she isnt ignorant of feelings.. She has chemistry with the ml and she is there to be his possible wife so being that chummy with his brother like that just looks a bit wrong/misleading.
I didn't forget how the ml was to her, I'm just expressing that I don't think she is being good to the 2nd ml by leading him on that way..she hasn't put boundaries between them, etc