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Exactly. Do these people really know what BDSM is??? Bondage-DISCIPLINE, Dominate-submit, sadism-masochism. Physical punishment is part of it and he did repeatedly give him leave to well... leave. Chanwoo is also getting some come uppance here. He is playing with MD's feelings too. Does he really expect MD to be able to continue their relationship after being rejected romantically? AND I would have dropped Chanwoo when he refused to use his safeword. Both parties need to trust the other. M.D. can no longer trust that Chanwoo will be honest to say when he is at the limit. This is just inviting serious injury. I hope Chanwoo learns his lesson.

He hasn't consented to this. In fact he said not and then was blackmailed into saying yes. This is NOT A PLAY. The first time he said he wanted out ALL SHOULD HAVE STOPPED. And yeah, sure, MD should've consider them done if that's what he wanted. But THIS IS NOT HOW IT WORKS. The rules are stated BEFORE EVERY PLAY. Chanwoo clearly didn't know that he was gonna be slapped if he felt uncomfortable.

Why didn't he dump him,then? If he knows that he isn't a suitable sub, that's what a responsible Dom should do. Because he is bitter. This is revenge.

he gave him an opportunity to walk out. and the only reason he’s still there is because he’s only thinking with his dick. if he doesn’t want it he can leave now. if he stays he needs to go through it with it because he’s doing it under his own free will. he’s not a kid. safe words exist for a REASON and he’s not using it.

Yes and his DOM KNOWS THAT AND STILL ISN'T STOPPING EITHER. Can't you see that?

SAFE. WORD.
it all comes down to safe word. people legit enjoy others doing things to them even when saying no and their relationship is all that. the same thing happened in a different chapter where MD was CLEARLY uncomfortable with the play but chanwoo pressured him to it to the point he had to stop. do you not understand how a BDSM relationship works? this is not some lovely dovey relationship like with jiwon and DG if he can’t open his mouth to say his safe word that’s ON HIM.

No, dude. It's CLEARLY you who doesn't understand. Chanwoo didn't force MD to use the safe word, he did it because he was getting out of hand with a play and KNEW that he could hurt a sub that doesn't know where his limits are. You can discuss that Chanwoo isn't a good sub because he is too immature or stubborn. But all of this??? Is on the Dom

Not really. Like Chanwoo even said. MD hadn't called him since. MD is thinking about it and hasn't done any "play" since he didn't use the safe word. It may be revenge but it IS consensual. There may be some pain but there isn't any damage or real injury. Personally I cheered for MD. I hope they get their HEA. The real turd here is the ex sub.

Consent was withdrawn the instant MD learned that Chanwoo is unable to say the safe word. This is abuse, not bdsm.

and why should the dom have all the responsibility on this? have you done bdsm before? do you know how it actually works and it takes BOTH parties for this? all it takes it ONE word and all of this can stop. legit ONE WORD. why should MD have to be blamed for chanwoo being immature and stubborn? he’s not a kid he’s a grown ass man and everyone is treating him like a child. literally all he needs is one word and it’s over with, but chanwoo is thinking with his dick and everything that comes to him is his responsibility as well.

OMFG. He is unstable. And it's clear. He didn't use safe word while being strangled to death. When he was literally choking and couldn't breath.

Yes, I have. Yes I've been taken advantage of by Dom that saw that I didn't care for ny boundaries and pushed too far. Sorry, but that's BAD. Sorry, it's the Dom responsibility, not only to punish but also to TEACH.

LMAO if you don’t care for your OWN boundaries that’s YOUR PROBLEM. your dom isn’t a mind reader both are responsible if you can’t understand that then you should work on what’s actually best when it comes to a bdsm relationship

Wtf no, that's not how this works. It's a team work. You have to know a lot the other person to understand them, to know when you're maybe going too far. There are literally plays where you're blindfolded/gaged/tied up. EVERYTHING needs to be discussed before, and agreed with. And the moment it gets uncomfortable IT HAS TO STOP. Otherwise you're putting people in LITERAL DANGER. Obviously you have responsibility for your own well being, but as his Dom HE DOES AS WELL, AND HE IS IGNORING THAT FACT. Chanwoo shouldn't be a sub as long as we don't know why he has so many abusive relationships. But that doesn't give MD the right to abuse him as well.

You know shit about BDSM when you are making excuses for me who broke so many fuckin rules in this pseudo play.

I can see that you have a really good heart and have a strong sense of right and wrong. Don't ever lose that. It's wonderful and I like you. However I don't think you are cut out for the world of BDSM personally. In this world there is a very strong adherence to right and wrong and what is acceptable. But striking a partner is acceptable. I also think MD's play here is mild. I think he really wants to push Chanwoo to use safe word or leave. He keeps asking him. This is also for Chanwoos own good. If the relationship ends and Chanwoo finds another Dom but still won't use the safe word it would be really really dangerous. So in one sense this is like parenting tough love. Forget i said parent cuz eww. but you know what i mean. I think in the end it will be better for him. I don't think it's all for revenge. I think it's also training and teaching.

Stop saying this is bdsm. ITS NOT. Bdsm is CONSENSUAL. The “play” in this chapter was NOT consensual.

I mean????? I already said that I would've left. I learnt the hard way that there are bad Doms who take advantage of the situation. While I do agree that if the outcome is what they said (that is some sort of teaching) the way he is doing it is totally unacceptable. That's it. Because Chanwoo is clueless and the damage he can be doing it's maybe too much for him to handle

I meant that I agree that if that's the outcome and not forcing actual sex between those two, maybe I'm not gonna hate it sooo much, still, it's pretty icky

How do you definite consensual? MD asked Chanwoo agreed. MD gave multiple opportunity to stop. Chanwoo kept saying I'll do it. But i do think that MD is trying to teach multiple lessons here. And yes i do think MD has thought of all this. It's not just revenge. And i am confident that MD can control this within proper boundaries so Chanwoo understands. No it's not your typical BDSM play. This IS to teach Chanwoo and I think it is for his own good.