I’m so conflicted...

Bdsm is consensual, where everything is discussed before every play. Nothing about the slap was justified. It was done out of rage from rejection. He knows chanwoo is unable to say the safe word, yet he continues to coerce him into “plays” to manipulate him. Chanwoo did not consent, so this is abuse.

It's beyond me that people think that rejection and the brining new bf scene justify MD's horrible behaviour.

Exactly. Chanwoo doesn’t owe md anything. You’re not obligated to return unrequited feelings. The victim blaming, slut shaming, and abuse excusing by these people who claim to know what “real” bdsm is... so harmful and disgusting...

No... it's also can be opposite in BDSM that we call unhealthy BDSM. Yeah of course Chanwoo did not consent like u said but in BDSM also can be in abusive way.

No. Just no. NOTHING about bdsm is non consensual. There is no such thing as non consensual bdsm. Without consent, ANY sexual act is abuse/rape. Please learn more about real bdsm, so you can stop spreading lies and confusing people.

Alright

hey! so BDSM relationships and romantic relationships can be completely separate. people who have both a lover and a bdsm partner draw the line between the two and communicate properly.

slapping your sub out of anger is not healthy or proper BDSM etiquette. you should never let personal emotions let how you control your speech and/or actions. especially DURING a scene. even if you were not in a BDSM relationship, i don't think you'd like your partner randomly hitting you during sex.

before every BDSM scene, there should be proper communication about everything that's planned to be done and both the sub and the dom have the right to say no.

originally chanwoo said he was fine with their bdsm relationship and he liked MD, just not romantically. when MD told chanwoo he can go, if was a manipulative tactic because MD knew chanwoo wouldn't say no. he's using that to his advantage and MD is mixing personal feelings and another bdsm relationship.

(also chanwoo should know his boundaries but when you get repetitively emotional or physically abused, your thought process changes. it's implied that chanwoo is a push over and can't say no-which is why he couldn't say no when his "boyfriend" wanted to meet MD.)

Exactly!! All non-consensual sexual acts is rape/abuse. If you do not want it, it is rape/abuse.

I just want to drop in to say I am living for all your comments. You are on it, 100%

The hive mentality of canceling chanwoo was such toxic red pill mentality.

MD is not entitled to Chanwoo, and everything he has done so far as retaliation has been petty af and beneath the behavior of a good dom.

Im not here for it.

bdsm needs to be consensual otherwise it's abuse.

md was wrong for slapping chanwoo but yall don't just blame our dear md.

chanwoo is a grown ass man who IS able to say the safe word.

in bdsm, the sub needs to have every ounce in them to be able to say the safe word unless they're traumatized or something which in this case i think chanwoo is perfectly healthy and able to say it.

and to me, in a bdsm relationship, usually the dom/sadist would love to have control over their sub/maso.

especially if it's love, a dom would go to a few lengths just to get their subs unless the subs they wanted firmly rejects the dom (as in really reject and saying no even in the sexual area).

just my two cents ofc.

Yeah u are right. I had just read someone response that he just can assume the slap is the consensual by them from disobey their master. I think, what he say it's possible coz MD had 2 disciplines now. So the punishment it's not like u have BDSM like one to one (like before). I thought that's why MD always said he is not to fond have a sub more than one when he play BDSM. Maybe it's Looks like he abusive his partner. I don't know if all you that's so master about BDSM can accept this idea. But I do think what u said it's true. MD just took advantage about this situation. What happened next we will see it.