And that almost made me cry (▰˘◡˘▰)
IKR? it was so funny to read those dumb trolls bs XDD
It was honestly incredible how much they were trying to push it- basically saying that bc Chanwoo had been abused in the past, he didn't know what he wanted wasn't capable of making decisions for himself...even though he said that as soon as he was hit he dumped the guy that hit him and we see that he purposely refused to say the safe word just so that MD wouldn't "win."- oh and we see him actively refuse to listen to MD's orders so we knew that he was capable of that.
Maybe it was due to bad writing on the author's part, but despite his circumstances, Chanwoo isn't a completely traumatized or misguided victim who doesn't know any better, he's actually a pretty tough and prideful character, and from what we have seen, he has shown himself to be unfazed a d more than capable of choosing what he wants. Now we finally get to see him allowing himself to understand his own limits and I'm really happy to see that.
same! it drives me crazy how they keep claiming Chan is a fucking baby that can't decide shit! it was sooo dumb, I can't even.....what the hall ╮(￣▽￣)╭
in this case I think the readers are just too young to read this and too naive.
I see all people who tried to talk any sense into you wasted their time.
I agree. A lot are at a really impressionable age where they basically just spit out what they have been hearing without giving the individual situation and the facts alongside it a second thought. This is for mature audiences only, but many of these people are underaged and too immature to be able to handle these themes or even to separate fiction from reality.
We are talking about real life issues and it's disturbing how people justify and make excuses for abusers.
? This is a fictional story and the writer has created Chanwoo as a character that does not respond the way people expect an abuse victim to, and because of this, she establishes that he is sound-minded enough to be able to make his own choices and decide for himself what he wants.
If this was a real life case where the Dom did not listen to his Sub's safe word and physically hurt him out of bounds, I'd agree, but it isn't.
Chanwoo had dumped every abuser thus far immediately after being abused and even got angry at MD for treating him tenderly after it, implying that until the moments leading up to his safeword, any "abuse" was permissible by Chanwoo. The very moment that Chanwoo called out the safeword, MD stopped all play and cradled Chanwoo with no ifs, ands, or buts about it.
I'm not defending any real life abusers and if you can't differentiate between the specific story I am talking about along with the facts within that story vs. Outsidw real life cases, I will no longer respond to whatever you have to say.
I will quote because this post explain it nicely:
We all know that BL logic dictates that they get together after this but I really hope they don’t.
What MD did was fucked up and honestly Chanwoo wasn’t in the wrong. He went to ask his Dom for permission to date because they had agreed to keep a strictly professional relationship. He wasn’t planning on dating behind his dom’s back which shows he really respected MD.
But then MD uses the other sub who just betrayed and hurt Chanwoo to hurt Chanwoo even more. I don’t want to believe that Chanwoo just used the safe word out of just jealousy. Sure there was probably some there but he only started crying when MD smiled. In Chanwoo’s eyes MD was enjoying Chanwoo’s misery and was putting so much emotional damage on him of course he was going to break.
To simplify Chanwoo’s tears as just jealousy would be dumbing down this horrific situation MD forced him into. Yes, forced him into. Sure he could have said no, but he just lost his boyfriend who was a traitorous scum and he was about to lost his Dom too if he didn’t go along with this. Also who would want to lose their partner to their betrayer? MD knew that no wasn’t really an option so he happily hurt a Chanwoo for his own self satisfaction. I don’t know too much about the BDSM world, but I’m pretty sure putting your sub through this level of emotional abuse is a big no and no amount of aftercare can really make up for the shit MD just pulled.
But MD absolutely shouldn't create situation/play where sub feels obligated and pressured because of conditions.
To all of y'all going "BuT CHAnWOo iS a VicTIM" and blaming everything entirely on MD last chapter then claiming to the high heavens that Chanwoo was inexperienced and didn't know how to use a safe word. HERE.
It was all too much for him and he finally realized it and said the safe word like he should have but was too stubborn to in the beginning, MD stopped IMMEDIATELY. As he should have. It was play (albeit not entirely safe play on EITHER side) and MD made sure that it was just play.
MD was being a dick, I won't deny that at all, but he was also being a sadist in BDSM play and stopped as soon as Chanwoo told him it was too much.
In BDSM both partners need to rely on each other. Neither responded correctly in the last few chapters(MD bringing in emotion, Chanwoo refusing to use the safeword even after knowing his own limits were being pushed), but here we see each of them doing what they should be more responsibly and I hope they continue to be responsible and open to communicating about their feelings and needs.