Ah, I was thinking the exact same thing. I really hope these guys just stay as friends because
1.They are such good friends. It's rare and it makes me so happy
and 2. Frankly I just can't see them falling in love. (Or, like you said, if they do end up together it better happen slowly and naturally.)
yeah like dont get me wrong, i love romance, but i think that in everyone's lust for bl we're just completely undermining nice male friendships. even in real life guys can't just be friends like this. it makes me sad :((
Plenty of people act like these dudes do while in a relationship...your partner is your best friend so of course they are good friends together. For me, I like this kind of plot because I can relate to it. When I get a very close friendship like this where I feel close and open to another woman I start to feel like I want to be with her. You always think you’re happy to be just friends because you are....until you get demoted from your position due to them getting a romantic partner. This kind of friendship changes once one of you starts dating. They wouldn’t be as close or cuddly anymore. So staying friends only works if they have a committed platonic relationship otherwise it will change one way or another if they meet somebody else.
i'm specifically referring about straight guys, though. i know that this is shounen ai, so clearly they both will realize they are okay with dating males, or at least each other, but a friendship like this is quite uncommon among straight males.
Well clearly these guys aren’t straight men so it doesn’t really help to compare them. These characters so far, assuming they have ever felt attraction to women, would be at the very least bi. Just because you don’t realize you like a person of your own gender identity until adulthood doesn’t make you straight or less gay. Growing up a lot of bi people pass as straight and even believe they are straight because of how complicated it is to unpack all of the conditioning with undergo in a straight centered society. If you’re bi, you can easily pass as straight and believe your attraction to others of your same gender is not out of the norm for a straight person or think your feelings are not romantic or sexual, so it’s very easy to continue to say you’re straight when you’re bi just because we are not taught what it’s like to be bi but we are taught what it is like to be straight and can identify with that half of our identity and assume there is nothing more to it. Bi people can go their whole life without realizing they’re bi or even dating their own gender. In a lot of bl they use the whole “I’m only gay for you” trope but that’s just denial and poor writing. Those characters are just bi but haven’t been attracted to same sex/gender before or to a degree that they felt they needed or wanted to act on it before. I say all that to say....these kind of friendships are very common between people who can be attracted to multiple genders. Hell, my friend didn’t think she could be with women until our friendship like this. She still doesn’t seek out women over men but she acknowledges that she can fall in love with them.
oh totally. i myself am bi. and i hATE the entire "i'm straight but i like you, a guy." it's like, no, you're bi.
but i'm simply saying: i think it would be a nice story if they were just two straight dudes who had this friendship. because often times straight dudes don't have this friendship. that's all.
Same!!! I wouldn't mind either way but wholesome friendships > romance in general for me ahahha
In all honesty I just want them to be friends. This type of pure close friendship is not common at all among boys in media and to see them being so friendly without romance really makes me soft. Romance would seem so outlandish with the dynamic they've already developed,, like really forced. If it does develop into romance, I hope it to be suuuuper slow and natural.