Why is the ML so flawless and annoying!?

you'll love him soon just wait

Don’t worry he won’t be like that for long. In the novel he practically worships the ground she walks on.

I believe you but please understand that he manhandled her at their first meeting and the powerdynamic seems to be often in favour of Asher.
Iris on the other hand has a more equal footing with than Aria with Asher.
I hope you understand my frustation about that part of the story.

I can't even with this comment hahaha

If can't respect someone's opinion and be mature about it... It does say sth about your personality and attitude

Aria will gain so much power and prestige soon enough and they will be even and with regards to their first meeting, i don't agree much with the way he held her, but i do understood where he came from, it was supposed to be a supper secret information that they are going to bring down the casino, more like national security level secret mission, so for him to hear his plan from a stranger, i bet he was so shocked he was unable to control himself.

I take your word for it.
I was so focused on Aria's "helplessness/weakness" towards Asher that I ignored his crush and becoming more love strucked towards her.
Just another complaints of mine: Was it really neccessary to make Aria more Special and priveledged than she actually is? It is the usual Lost Princess Twist in many Fantasy Romance novels.
I get that was probably the best way to explain her time traveling power but her being portrayed as of commoner blood was really impactful and relatable.
Imagine Bella from Twillight suddenly being revealed
as the reincarnated Queen of an aristocratic bloodline

Maybe it was to make an explanation for why she could use the hourglass instead of a vague - oh there might be a god that was listening or whatever