Philophobia

Maybe you're just aromantic? I have this aro friend who really wants to expirience the feeling of falling in love but just can't seem to find a way.

Philopohobia is like any other phobia, here it was presented quite mild but if you were it would make you sick and scared if someone showed interest in you and such til the point of panicking, tho there's really no way to know for sure until you fall in love, unless if it's so severe that even in fiction the idea of it scares you

I was in love once, and the moment i thought i might develop the interest i started being afraid and avoiding the person. I could barely talk to them, my voice would become weird and my hands would shake. Once they came too close i had a panic attack, started hypervantilating and lost feeling in my hands and feet. When i wanted to confess, i had a panic attack again even tho i was deliberately drunk. When i actually confessed, i had it again, and since i had no sadatives on me it lasted for about an hour and i thought i would faint, luckily my friend helped me calm down, but i couldn't feel my hands for quite a while after it, i thought i broke them hahha

Otherwise i don't consider myself to be overly emotional and i don't panic. I moved and i don't see them or hear about them anymore. So, i was fine and i thought it a one-time incidet. Right now i'm trying to date online and i thought it would be fine, but even that seems to be too much for me and i started taking sedatives again in order to function normally

I'm sorry for dumping my story onto you haha, but i wanted to leave a comment about this anyway and i wanted to respond to you so i thought why not two birds with one stone

İf ur into girl we can go out akwllwşwşw

There is no need to feel pressured, even if people say that you should find a partner quickly as you get older, there is no real meaning behind it. You can't force yourself to fall in love, it's something that just happens, and if not, there must be a reason why :)

Well, on the bright side of that, then at least you've been saved from the pain of it. I'd rather not have had it if I knew it was going to be so painful. Especially if you never find it again. Then that's another painful feeling to live with for the rest of your life. A longing that you'll never get rid of.... I'd rather not have ever have found it in the first place. But, that's just me ╮(￣ _ ￣)╭

im still highschooler and never have a boyfriend either. im fun and have so many friends even boys but it just that.. the fact that im ugly ofc no one gonna be with me^^

I'm the same. 24 years old too, and haven't even kissed anyone, I liked a guy when I was 13 but after that I've never liked anyone again. And I sometimes have those feelings too, the ones that I wish I could have lived those sweet moments of falling in love during high school time and things like that. And I don't see myself falling in love soon, I just can't find anyone to like, and even if I do, I've got anxiety, I can't even talk or look to a guy I find cute, I get a total weird.

Wow.. Aren't we the same? I just feel like no one is good for me or they'll get disappointed once we started dating when i think about it. Maybe i'll die alone in this lifetime. I don't know it doesn't reall bother me anymore.

Same hehe