Advice please

I've been in this situation before. The problem is you're not choosing your audience correctly. If this person isn't well-vested in your life and interests, you might have to come to the realization that they don't care about you as much as you care about them. Avoidance of issues might also stem from the desire not to talk about them. You may find better luck with this person as a "surface friend" and search for deeper relationships elsewhere in your life. Otherwise you are putting unrealistic expectations onto your friend and your relationship which might ultimately cause the rift between you two to grow larger. It's a harsh truth, but a necessary one.

Of course, this is based off of your comment. You know your situation better than I do, but from an outsider's perspective who can sympathize, that's what I see.

Thank you that makes a lot of sense. I do have other friends that I talk to about all my stuff so ig its not good to force it for that person and just be friends hah sadly but I get it and thanks btw♡´･ᴗ･`♡ you’re amazing and wise Hehe (づ￣ ³￣)づ

No problem! This has been an issue for me in the past. I'm glad I could be of assistance.

To this I'd like to add that avoidance doesn't have to mean they don't care but maybe that they don't know how to deal with it. Sometimes when you don't know how to react to something you can end up coming off blazé.
But mostly what @Damn D~A~K~U Katsuki said.

Yeah I get that, stuff I say could be intense. And it’s not like she doesn’t care about me so what you’re saying makes sense. Thanks for the input♡

Glad to be helpful

The way she replies...she does not know what to say. A person who hasn't been through it really can't know the depth of it or how much it affects you. Its a different kind of caring. She probably wants to understand but may not know how.

It sounds like they're not probing into it because they don't know what to say to you regarding your issues because they simply lack the depth and tact to pursue the topic further with you, not that they don't care. If they're listening intently enough to respond to you, it means they do care. And changing the topic isn't to slight you it can also be to de-escalate tension. Whether its to de-escalate your tension or theirs, or it's simply habitual to carry on the conversation. I can say from experience that I have a number of very close friends that sometimes also can't help me solve my problems but are only capable of hearing me vent.

So I feel like she cares about you, but just doesn’t know what to say. So I would just talk to another friend about it.

I had the same thing happen to me once. I asked her something along the lines of "There's this boy in my class who I've known for a while and whenever I bring up any issues or go into deep thought it seems as if he doesn't care and ends the conversation by saying that's sad or that sucks. What should I do?" And she told me "I don't know, but why would you tell him this stuff if he doesn't care?" I said "Because we're good friends" and she told me "I wouldn't be friends with a person like that". I revealed that it was her and she got angry for "tricking her"? But she just admitted she wasn't a good friend so I cut our friendship off after that.

Well. If I were you I would seek new friends. She doesn' either have the skills to communicate how she wants to. Or she doesn't care too much. I had a friend once who would rant about her life all the time but never really caring about me and what I wanted to talk about. Its not healthy so make friends with someone who is good at listening. But remember to not be what you dislike. Remember to listen to them aswell.

Having a friend is not only about sharing happiness together but also sharing your concerns together. And if she can’t understand what you’re going through then I think you need to find a new friend. Like you said , you’ve only been friends for two years and in my opinion you can get a better friend who can understand and share your concerns with. Friends come and go, I’m sure you’ll find another good person who you can talk to. Or if you don’t want to lose her then why not make other friends and talk to them instead? And if I were you I wouldn’t tell her anything because she won’t understand and her simple answers will just hurt my feelings more and more.

Yeah if I look at it in a certain way I can see that she’s trying like you said to de-escalate the tension, which I appreciate but you know sometimes it just feels like she’s brushing it off but I get it..thanks for your advice ♡

Yeah after hearing everyone’s input I think that it’s better option to just talk to another friend (just kinda hard considering how she had a really high place in my heart..if that makes sense heh) thanks for your advice♡

Yeah I’ve talked to her about it(in the most gentle way possible) but I could see that she was getting uncomfortable so I dropped it..and I think after hearing everyone’s advice I should put at least a little distance between us haha thank you for you advice I appreciate it ♡´･ᴗ･`♡

Well dang that was badass haha(hope that wasn’t offensive sorry if it was) But I’ll admit that I am a bit scared to lose her as a friend so I’ll just distance myself and hopefully we can remain okay friend in the end(I sound like a pussy (￣∇￣")) but thanks for your advice ♡´･ᴗ･`♡

Yes I agree it is not healthy but I am a little scared to lose her as a friend so I’ll just try and distance myself for now (you after reading this:(╯°Д °)╯╧╧) and yeah I always try to be there for people who are hurting(cause I know how it feels ╥﹏╥) thanks for your advice ♡´･ᴗ･`♡

Yes thank you I do have a friend that always really supports me in my hard times which I think was how I really realized properly that the relationship with my friend wasn’t the best. Thanks for your advice, idk why I didn’t really get how true friend should be so when you explained it I opened my eyes more to the situation...hope that makes sense (idk maybe I just never thought too deeply about relationships I’m general considering a lot of them I’ve seen are toxic ) anyways thanks again♡´･ᴗ･`♡

Yeah and I get that we both have had different experiences in life so it’s wrong of me to expect her to know exactly what to say to comfort me. Thanks for your advice♡´･ᴗ･`♡