Y'all

I have parents like this. My mum cares for our father like hell. She says we don't matter cause we won't do anything for her but our father will support her till the end. We don't even eat anything special if my father ain't home. This is what I have been hearing all the way growing up. My father let's out his stress on my mother and she let's out his stress on me. This is how I grew up.
So I don't think Hyesung is bad. He is inexperienced. But many times the way he acts is selfish. I don't think he is bad but he needs to improve. As a parent shouldn't u improve for ur kid. Or I am getting this wrong? Cause no one knows parents better than me. I spent my whole life finding a reason to love them except the fact that they spend money on me. My parents never grew up as parents and I don't think Hyesung should be like that too.

Hyesung's actions are a refletion of some parent's reality. I feel bad on your situation. I cant say that I have a perfect relationship w/ mine, its far from perfect but everything works out at the end of the day. And I hope for your family as well.

Wow, I really admire the fact that you want to find a way to love your parents instead of hating them. You've a very warm and big heart. Everything you said about Hyesung and as parents, it's understandable to be inexperienced but people should totally try to improve for their kids is damn spot on! Bravo to you !!!

I completely agree. My nephew was in a similar situation where he couldn't talk. The dad said he is just behind and will catch up eventually. My sister was worried though. She never screamed like the uke did cause that was a bit insensitive to the baby worry or not. In my nephews case he might have autism and has delayed speach due to stress he went thought when his parents split up ( a specialist confirmed it). He's getting better with help so definitely no parent is perfect right away. You can't always just leave a child and say that they will learn eventually since they might actually need the help. In this case I can say both parents need more help and experience and we shouldn't hate on the one that is worried since the uke might actually be on to something. He went though so much trauma and needs to learn and of course he is not going to be the best parent right off the bat and I wished people would BE PATIENT with him. He will learn to be parent and to do things better with time. After all he is a better parent then he was at the start.

There is no hope. I am leaving them as soon as I can. As a child they never cared if all that stress was piled up on me. I got no friend. I always used to murmur under my bedsheets. Lol. I thought about suicide too many times. But I always gave up thinking that would they even be affected if I die? Would they ever blame themselves for it? They made my life hell so instead of taking my life I should make their's hell. And would their life be hell if I die? Nope. One day when they hear I am pansexual, I really will be happy seeing the disappointed expression on their faces. Even if they die I know I don't give a damn. Cause they made me what I am. I don't feel bad for myself. Cause I am happy I became like this. I am just saying that parents need to grow up too.

Nope. I am tired of finding ways to love them. I really hate them now. Believe me I ain't that kind. But I don't wanna spend my whole life thinking about how useless they were. That's why it's no point doing anything to them.

I am really sorry for your experience but just cause you had terrible experiences with your parents doesn't mean that " you know parents better". Believe me I was physically and mentally abused by mine, but when I helped my sister be a parent to my nephew I wasn't a perfect parent either. You can't know what's it's like to be a parent untill you are one. You cant think my parents where horrible so I will never be like them, cause once your in a parents shows you cant be sure. Your parents are compleatly negligent and don't deserve to be parents, but the uke is trying and IMPROVING. He has grown so much from the beginning when he didn't want to change a diaper or even have the baby for starters. He wanted to be free yet look at him giving up his afternoons to take care of his baby. He even plays and reads to him something most parents don't do. Yes he shouldn't scream at a baby, but he is a new parent and I hope he changes and grows up more. You wouldn't believe how many new parents get impatient with a baby cause it's a completely new experience. I agree with the of commenter that UNLESS YOUR A PARENT YOU WONT Completely UNDERSTAND so please be patient with him.

Ur wrong here. I never meant anything u have understood. I just said that parents need to grow up for their children too. I ain't saying Hyesung's bad. He needs to improve is what I am saying. And I ain't saying he needs to do that now. He can take his time, btubhe should improve. That's why u totally have understood me wrong. I insist u read what I wrote again.

There's really a lot going on there. And I kinda understand. Your situation reminds me of my elder sister. Coz of personal and various reasons, she had to act as the eldest and carried all the responsibilities and pain brought by my parents. And she's somehow like how you see things. I couldnt blame her and whats worst is I couldnt help her. Her wounds are too deep and the scars are beyond healing. But people likethe both of you are way too strong to be standing after all youve gone through. Thanks for opening up. And yeah, parents should also grow up, not just the kids, but they are too late for that. We all know that its a miracle for them to even listen, even less growing up. But, its not too late for us to, when time comes that we took the life of being parents.

I think you also missed the part where I explained HOW HE HAS IMPROVED. Your saying he has to improve but most parents don't do it right away I am just asking you to be patient. He has also changed and improved soooo much from where he started so why you saying he has to change when he is. He is far from perfect but he is improving.

Lol on the top of that I have little brother too. If he does anything wrong it's another hell storm day for me. Lol. Another shit I don't even wanna start talking about. Give ur sister my regards. Thnx for being a good listener.

And ma'am I am saying that I am patient. I was never against what u said. U again took me wrong ma'am. I replied to this comment cause they said "no one should judge parents". And that ain't true. Being a parent means that u don't need to be judged and that u do for ur child willingly. I never made it against Hyesung. But if ppl say Hyesung doesn't need to improve cause he had some shitty past as a parent that's what I don't think is right. So ma'am ya better judge what I say and what ya say correctly. Words r heavy u see. Not something to waste.

They said that you shouldn't untill you are one. You your self said that you understand parents which honestly untill you are one you will realize there is a lot you didn't know. Some of us have had sucky parents than never should have been parents but honestly a lot of parents are negligent here and there yet want to preach that they are better. You saying that misunderstood your comment and your also misundersting mine and the of commenter. She never said we have to understand YOUR or MY terrible parents but that we shouldn't start acting as if we would be better untill we are in a parents spot.

As an example you said you understand parents since your where terrible well that's what my parents thought to. They talk about how my grandparents where terrible and abusive so they wanted to be better parents. They really aren't though so do my parents have the right to judge other parenting ? NO. Do I have the right do my abused passed or even the fact I am helping raise my nephew? NO. That's why I keep commenting and honestly I am done commenting back to you. I understand your parents hurt you but that don't mean we have the right to judge others cause we will never know the full story of why they do what they do or if they will ever change.

I hate how I have to talk about two ppl who everyone should do the best to not follow. They aren't some gr8 ideals u can even use for example. My mother doesn't pick up my clothes or wash my dishes even when she does everyone else's and keeps shouting all day long on how disappointed she is in giving birth to me. I ain't a fucking plague. I was born a disappointment. I don't give a fuck. I ain't asking for sympathy. I am giving an example on how parents need to grow instead of thinking that children aren't in a position to judge them.
Ma'am u r sticking to ur ideal too much. Be lax and accept for a second what I wrote. Maybe u find that I got no point u can be against with what u aim for. Giving birth doesn't mean ur child can't judge u. It never can. U have to grow up with ur child so that he doesn't need to judge u. And no one is perfect at that but everyone should try. Mark my works carefully for this be the last time I repeat them.