forgiving the bully is bullshit

reffiekaw August 22, 2020 12:27 pm

i am really curious, if this story happen to u in real life, the situation where u literally back into the corner where ur other choice is kill urself. can u honestly said u wont get revenge even when one day u suddenly get the power and strength u need? i am always curious about what ppl who preach about forgiveness towards a bully will act in this situation.. if the bullying is only mild like calling names or so without the physical stuff or stealing money,etc i definately can see its easy to just brush it off and move on, but if i stuck in MC situation, the only thing that can satisfy me is seeing the bully kneel for forgiveness, tortured them as bad as they tortured me, then make them scared of me so they know not to mess with me.. an eye for an eye

Responses
    agathe August 31, 2020 5:11 pm

    Being vengeful or not tolerating the « unfair «  is literally hardwired in our dna
    So you’re basically right - but it’s a dangerous instinct : « revenge « suppresses quite a few surviving programs that are also hardwire
    It has a meaning to protect the specie above the individual
    It’s a very profound urge

    the maximum violence we can ressort to, is coming out of our education, morality sets limits , « revenge » can offset these limits too

    So what you say is very true, but also dangerous revenge = instinct that reduce morality, survival aptitude (at any cost ?) and control
    And if these type of response becomes habits add to that : brain wise habits = addiction

    also revenge can bring new revenge in an endless circle

    There might be reasons why the concept of forgiveness is not entirely bad ?

    at least thinking différent type of answers , and etting better at reconciliation are a very important social need

    chic September 5, 2020 2:41 pm

    or he could have just go straight to the main antagonist. No need to kill lots of the underlings. They will cover in fear if Galhwa died horrendously.

    Bullies in most cases are unrepentant. They only grow into more evil doers like head of mafia, psychotic killer, rapist, corrupt politicians, etc. Only a few would actually choose to repent and have a new life.

    asdatauagabj September 10, 2020 4:34 am

    I mean would you still take revenge if it cost the life of those precious people around you ?
    In the end we will be running in devil circle