good read

Agree with you

just in case, maybe Im going to go insane and just kill them all, so that I can't hear they having sex again forever, muahahah

Muhahahaha....I would do the same..and then plead insanity. ..I mean come on the blonde would be the first to go.

It would certainly be hard, and our modern culture contributes to that. Despite its many historical occurrences, we're not used to the idea and we don't usually see direct examples of it growing up.

One way to relate to such a seemingly alien concept of love is to think about how a parent is not limited to loving one child, nor a child one parent. That would be silly, wouldn't it? Yet siblings can grow jealous of one another and compete for a parent's attention. There are problems in both cases, but similarly there are also solutions.

I get what your saying..but the sex thing..I just couldn't handle it.
I was watching a series called sister wives and I just couldn't do it..It's okay if your brought up in that way or it's your beliefs..But ,Its just not for me.

Yeah, that's understandable. I think you would have reach a state where you honestly like, love, and respect everyone in the harem. That way, their happiness can be felt as your happiness. Your insecurities would need to be regularly assuaged with attention and trust, so you can feel safe.

Done well, a harem has many practical benefits: Joint incomes are efficient, affording better housing and other things; bulk cooking saves money; and shared parental responsibilities eases the individual burden. You'd have more people you could confide in and talk intimately with, at a level beyond friendship, and arguments wouldn't always be a "he-said-she-said" wash.

As a side thought, consider the course of human development. In primitive times, you had to do everything yourself to survive. Now we specialize, focusing our talent and benefiting from the talents of others to lead better, easier lives. For example, a single person can draw a manga, but a team working together can make an anime.

Yet at home in a relationship, we are still "doing everything ourselves" for our partner. In a harem, while each person is a compounding complexity rife with potential discord, they also have talents. Some are funny and engaging, some are sensitive and caring, some are intelligent and pragmatic, some are cute and playful; these are all specializations that could contribute to the health of the whole and lead to a more fulfilling life.

I can see that ..but again not for me.. I like this manga ..and Ryuu is hot <3

but I couldn't do a harem...I am just to greedy if I love someone I know I could never
share them..to me that is cheating. ..I understand they all bring in something to the marriage. . But for me its not worth it. ..
(I wonder why the real harem are not one women with three guys..I always think of that
as a double standard) but its still wouldn't be for me.

For me, I see cheating as a type of dishonesty and betrayal. If there is complete openness from the start and informed consent from everyone involved, I don't consider it cheating. Harem, swinging, cuckolding, polyamory, as long as everyone knows and willingly agrees, who is being cheated?

A "reverse harem", as it's sometimes called in manga, with one woman and multiple men, is certainly possible, but as you said it is less common. This can be attributed to several inherent differences between the genders.

A man can give a child to practically any number of women at the same time, while a woman can only conceive one man's child at a time. This would mean the men in a reverse harem would have to queue up and wait for several years to have their child, which places a great burden on the body of one woman.

A woman can literally die from pregnancy, but can a man? Not without an enraged external force! As a result of the differences in childbearing, biologically speaking, men don't need to be as picky about their partners as women do. They have 'less to lose', so to speak, and less risk. This has also become reflected in the general mindset of many cultures throughout the ages, putting less pressure on men than women when it comes to faithfulness, which I agree is a double-standard we don't need. It is a societal form of mate-guarding.

Men have considerably higher levels of testosterone produced by the testicles, which is a hormone responsible for sex drive and aggression among other things. A harem is a way to satisfy the disproportionate sex drive between a man and his women, but for many men the increased aggression makes it more difficult to accept a reverse harem.

Men have evolved to root out rivals. The head of a man's penis is mushroom-shaped in order for it to scrape out the semen of competitors. Considering this and everything above, is the inclination in preference so strange?

For me, equality means everyone has the same rights, status, and options in accordance to their inalienable needs (women need more health care due to pregnancy; children need more protections due to their development, etc), not that we must match every harem with an equal amount of reverse harems like some kind of relationship Affirmative Action. That would ignore and run contrary to our biological differences and personal choice.

In the case of stories like manga, it matters what sells; harem is popular with men in Japan, but that doesn't mean reverse harem is or will be popular with women in Japan. Even so, reverse harem exists to some degree in Japanese media, so it's there if you want it. If the supply doesn't meet your demands, then it can only fall to you and those like-minded to address that niche.

As for a double-standard, if most guys were okay with a harem but not a reverse harem for *themselves*, I would call that their personal preference. If they instead went on to say harems are okay for everyone but reverse harems are not okay for anyone, then they would be shifting their preferences onto other people and guilty of perpetrating a double-standard.

After all, the golden rule doesn't hold up for a masochist.

I said to me its cheating. ..not everyone is the same as me..other people
could probably do a harem..I just couldn't

To clear the air before I get into the meat of my reply, I hope you don't take me for the Hare-Kon Gorilla trying to convince you to join a harem. Heh.

Now, you say it's cheating, but isn't that strange? If you never agree, then it's always cheating, is it not? No need to distinguish it like that. But if you agreed and then still called it cheating, wouldn't that be unfair?

In every reply, you've added that you couldn't do a harem. Once, I get it. Twice, okay. Three times? Now I'm picturing a tsundere turned away while blushing, "I-I-I just c-c-c-couldn't do it, okay?! Baka!" The more you deny it, the more suspicious it becomes. *slightly evil grin*

I would never be in a harem anyways. ...like i said I am greedy if your mine your mine and nobody elses..if you become somebody elses your cheating..but thats my view...muahahahaha..going back to eating my ice cream ╮(￣▽￣)╭

I hope you plan to stick with that flavor of ice cream for the rest of your life. If you try another, that'd be cheating, and you'll never be able to have that flavor of ice cream again.

If that were the case, how many ice cream flavors would you want to marry? *smirk*

Hahahahaha...if I want another flavor ..I guess I will have divorce chocolate ( T﹏T )