Well done. I think your strong and wonderful. I wish you all the happiness in the world!
Yes, Thank you so much for saying this!
Something very similar happened to my best friend. I am so sorry that you went through this, no one should. I am PROUD a of you for leaving, it must have been the most challenging thing to have done. Those friends weren’t worth keeping if they left you without hearing what you had to say.
Victim blaming, like what people in the comments are doing, is another reason as to why it is hard for victims to leave relationships. It’s why so many people get away with being abusive. It frightens me seeing how angry people are getting at the MC. Nobody knows how hard it is to leave abusive relationships until they go through it themselves.
Thank you for sharing this with us and all the best for the future
youre really strong and brave, please keep up. ily
Oooon wooow. Thank you all for your kind comments. This all happened when I was younger, and it has been at least 6 years since I broke it off. I wasn’t looking for all the praise.. but I greatly appreciate it.
I really just want people who have never been in such a situation to understand how difficult it is. And I didn’t leave that person until I moved to another state and was far enough away to where he didn’t know my address. Even then it took 1 year to finally break it off with him. A lot of victims aren’t fortunate enough to be able to leave though... and South Korea is very tiny. Even if this character were to uproot his life and move to another city, he could still be found by his abuser...
You are welcome. It doesn't matter how long ago this happened reading this story brought back that memory for you. It's just like a smell be it food,perfume or even the smell of motor oil these for some people can be triggers. Music or even a certain song takes us back in time. You moved on , I think you are fab!
That sounds horrible ; im sorry you had to go through it .I had my share of emotional abuse and bullying but it was from a family member so i couldn't get myself away fast enough but good thing you chose yourself and your well being
So sorry to hear that. I really hope your coping mentally especially when family are involved and you have no place to run and not only that but who can you tell,who will listen,who can you trust to believe you! I'm so pleased your still with us to share your story I know their are loads of people on here suffering the same emotional pain. You are wonderful-keep on going! My friend didn't make it thanks to her father and too many are suffering the same fate. Please speak out,don't suffer in silence!
I really wish I could hug and heal every ones pain so they didn't have to suffer abuse!
You message really warmed my heart , i truly needed to hear that cause i was in so deep denying anything was wrong and trying to fix everything on my own .it's a tough cycle to be stuck in , like you said , no one should let themselves endure that kind of enviroment
When it’s coming from family it’s even worse... because you’re supposed to be able to trust them, and it’s hard to get away from them. You never deserved that, and I’m sorry they put you through that/ allowed you to go through that. I hope that you’re safe and as happy as you can be now.
Sweetheart,you can't fix everything on your own. You need the right person to give you strength and guidance,it's just knowing who that person maybe. Never feel alone there is always someone somewhere. Sending lots of love and healing to you! ps: I still think your really strong and wonderful!
It's true we can't really chose who are parents and family are , And i do have days where i remember how afraid and unsafe i felt growing up i woudn't wish that for anyone , cause they say you grow from whatever you go through but no one say how you deal with the lingering pain you carry with you , cause it's damn exhausting . Anyhow Thank you for your kind words and i wish you are better and happier too whatever you are
I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years. I loved him and he loved me. Despite how he treated me and what he said to me, he would always be sweet afterwards and buy me gifts and shower me with love. Then the next day, he would return to how he was.
If you have never been in an abusive relationship, then you don’t know what it’s like.
The fear, the guilt, the sadness, and the love. All of it mixed together. I had so many reasons and opportunities to leave but: “if I’m a better girlfriend, he will be happy with me.” “If I stop talking to boys, he’ll be happy with me.” “If I’m sweet, he will take care of me and love me.” “I’m not pretty enough to find anyone else... he’s right when he told me that.” “No one will ever love me as much as he does.” “If I didn’t say (this) like (that), he wouldn’t have gotten mad.” “If I work out, he says I’m looking for attention, if I don’t workout, I’m fat.” “If I leave him... how will he react? Will he hurt me?” But, he bought me my favorite flowers on a Wednesday, to apologize. He bought me cute stuffed animals, to apologize. He bought me jewelry, to apologize. So, he loves me. He has to love me. And I love him, so much that I can look past how he treats me. He would GUILT ME, threaten to ruin my relationship, cry and beg for me to forgive him, said he would change... my mom said that if I went to live with him, she wouldn’t hear from me til I was on the news as missing or murdered.
And when I finally found the courage to leave him, he turned my closest friends against me. I lost everyone except for my family.
I was a victim, it will never happen again. This boy is struggling with what is happening. It is hard to leave your abusive partner, because they make you believe that it YOU in the wrong. YOU are why they hit you. YOU are why they yell at you. YOU are why this is happening. And YOU will never be good enough for anyone else. Eventually you begin to believe all of that, and you lose trust in other humans. So stop blaming him. You know nothing.