
um no mate calling it care would fucked up. and yes we DO blame the momma.
fyi toga's quirk awakened when she saw a beaten bird and drank its blood. but when she showed her parents they were disgusted and decided to raise her "normally" to basically turn away from the nature of her quirk. this is why we see toga as a villain so hung up on living life how she wants and constantly questioning why people have to butt in with that. because she was raised to be conserved in order to deny the "ugliness" of her quirk it caused her to snap and become who she is now. if her parents weren't so close-minded and instead helped her develop her quirk with fair, she wouldnt have turned into the "sick fuck that she is"

romaticize? it's a matter of UPBRINGING. it's like killer stain all over again. people don't end up "psycho and shit" just all of a sudden. that's what we see in all the villains in bnha. do you force your child to act in a certain way and slap "normal" into that type of parenting because you know you can get away with it? sounds like boomer talk to me.
momma may have tried her best but for the WRONG reasons. she didn't see her child, she saw a kid who was straying away from her own principles and morals. she saw someone who she wanted to control in order to match the standards of society. god it's disgusting to even think about.
and clearly the "cheerful" toga was all a facade. it wasn't who she REALLY was. toga took her parents' words to heart since she was very young. for a kid to feel hurt about her being called abnormal is a serious thing. she lived a life believing her true personality wasn't acceptable and that she just had to blend in with society. that is was the RIGHT WAY TO LIVE.
in a world of quirks and evil, DEVELOPMENT is key. if her parents didn't use such a one-sided way of parenting to force toga with shapingher quirk, none of this would've happened. you DON'T force your beliefs on your child. you HELP them develop their own beliefs - without bias.
"if it weren't for momma she be acting all psycho and shit." nah mate. it was BECAUSE of her momma that she became a psycho and shit.
Y'all tryna forget that she's a criminal and the way she acts, there's no remorse at all. Her backstory was that she killed someone because she love him and that she just wants to see her blood. Y'all forgetting how fucked up she is just because she's what y'all would like to call a "SAVAGE". dumb af how tf did you guys forget that.
You don't get a pass to act like that you criminal.