nah don't take it too literally.
He wanted to confirm her feelings, whether she liked him and saw him as Ain's father or viewed him as a man.
For example, in political marriages they ARE husband and wife, but only in name and on paper. Real couples, however, are well.. real couples lol I don't know how to say it any other way. They love and support each other.
Therefore, he just wanted to confirm how she viewed him
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Yes he often got jealous. But it's necessary to ask in this context, roselia said she's interested to the duke because they're husband and wife, she might say 'husband and wife' but there's possibility she meant it as family not as a man and a woman, that's why it's necessary to ask her to remove ain from the equation since he has to make sure if her interest to him and ain is the same or different

Dude really just wants to eliminate his own spawn, that's kinda wack bro