
Wow, I really like yours words. I don't kow what to say.
Just few explanations:
I'm not trashing this stories. I was upset bc everyday I read comments like: "How disappointing is this story, I wanted this guy was the seme and he was the uke! I don't like this story"
And if is it a good story, why you abandon it just bc doen't developed the way you want it? That is the real question for me.
I'm like all of you, wondering who will be the uke and who will be the seme. How they will face theirs problems, if they end up together, or if one of them will fall in love with somebody else... etc.
BTW I'm stealing your answer.

Run Asian boy, run!!
;v; I'm sorry.

Oh yeah! Kirishima and Yokozawa are perfect to become a reversible couple! I'd like to see that too.
I kinda understand why your friends don't like yaoi. I, for example don't read shoujo, bc I can't stand weak and/or annoying female characters. I just can't relate to them at all, even though I know it's just fiction.
I feel the same about Miyamoto Kano. I love her works, because of that realism and just the right amount of drama

If the couple's great, I usually don't particularly care. But then again, some are just so clearly spelled out who's taking which "role." If it's not what I expected, then that's even better! I love surprises. Like when a tough looking "seme" type turns out to be the uke, I still cheer because WOO hot scenes! I'm just looking for blushes and *ahem* naughty bits. It never really occurred to me that lots of people really care that much about roles as long as I see something *ahem* fun.
And reversible roles are even better since it's rarer in the yaoi world. I just enjoy yaoi that has a great plot and art. Everything else just kind of falls into place. (Though I do get a bit irritated when some semes refuse to be ukes despite the requests of their partners. I mean, if you really love the other person, wouldn't you be willing to do even that? Unless of coursez there's a valid reason. But otherwise, I'm completely fine. I haven't encountered any disappointments in yaoi in particular other than plot...)
Why fujoshi girls are so obsessed with sex roles like uke and seme? You know, in the gay world there are few men who are 100 % uke or seme, or top or bottom.
Only 11% of the gay men said they never bottom. And 10 % only bottom.
The rest of us are in both sides at least once.
I prefer top, but being in bottom (or being a uke) doesn't make me less man than being a seme. And it does'n matter. Only doing what you and your partner want and what make both feel great.
So, What is the big deal when someone 'who looks like a seme' plays the uke? Once upon a time I met a man with a delicate frame, nail polish and eyeliner who was one hell of top. Yes, top. Could you imagine it?
I don't understand your disappointment when a story (often a great story) didn't develope the way you want.