that one scene in nao's school days

Well i lived like that.. Sucks to be me

Lol same, but thankfully my friends understand haha

Well...it's because a lot of people AREN'T truly happy with that lifestyle. They don't do it because it's really what they want, they do it because they fear their parents' disappointment more than they care about themselves and their own dreams, and it usually follows them into adulthood as well. It's most often stemmed from emotional manipulation and low self-esteem...so yeah, that's why.

I agree! I was raised like that and I’m glad I was even though I hated them for it. In the moment it’s awful but once you grow up and see how your life would have been if your parents weren’t like that you appreciate what they did. I would have honestly be using drugs, be an alcoholic, or even be pregnant in my teens. I was honestly the only one in my family to go to college and have a job right now. All my cousins had kids in their teens and didn’t finish school, one smokes weed all the time and is just doing part time jobs, no one has a career like I do. All my high school friends have their third kid. Me and my other friend, that also had strict parents, are the only ones that have a career and haven’t had kids yet. I have other friend that also have successful careers and don’t have kids but not sure about if they had strict parents or not. I don’t think I missed out on anything. At that moment it felt like I was but now I don’t think i did. Idk

I guess it's also a matter of teaching your children responsibility, though. You don't have to shelter them from absolutely everything and lock them up in order to prevent them from it, especially because that can cause the opposite effect. I go to a university full of people who were extremely sheltered by their parents and were never allowed to do anything and only focused on school, so now that they finally have freedom, they're trying every possible drug, hooked on nicotine pens, partying every night, and alcoholic. They're not getting pregnant because they're at a prestigious uni, but they're doing any other irresponsible thing because they were never able to do anything at all before...that's usually how it goes. The more you keep someone away from something, the more curious they get.

The best way to go about it is to teach them to be responsible so that they don't HAVE to be sheltered. Don't let them do whatever they want unsupervised, but teach them that actions have consequences and find a balance between letting them do things they want but not being reckless and not doing it all the time.

In the U.S., its the places with abstinence only policies or no sexual education that has the most teenage pregnancies and that's not a coincidence. If you were properly taught how to use condoms, allowed access by your parents to use birth control, taught how to set boundaries and use consent between you and your partner, and realized that plan B was an option as a teenager, do you still think you may have possibly gotten pregnant?
If you were able to tell your parents that you wanted to drink alcohol and they taught you the safest ways to drink, supervised you until you understood your limits, and taught you how to drink responsibly and around people you trust, do you think you'd be an alcoholic?

Probably not.

Sorry for the lecture, I just...I'm glad you were able to feel satisfied in adulthood, but it's genuinely not the best way to raise your child and it can actually cause trauma and depression and stunt mental growth if you only shelter and be strict on your child before throwing them into adulthood, so I think it's important to say.