I agree with you just the one fact I think is kind of wrong is the fact that her father isn't trying to use her. More like he wants her to go to the best family possible a) so she won't get mistreated and also make it so her siblings also live good lives. Why it is critical for her to marry before her father dies. Is because that generally makes things harder for women to marry. He is the lord of the house and the main source of income. The wife needs to present a dowery which is provided by the family. So many factors weighed in when he was making this decision. He isn't that bad a father.
But i agree with the rest
I didn't say he was a bad father , I meant every woman at that time cannot be married off unless they get the approval of their father (which most fathers took advantage of, but hers didn't). Her dad wanted the best for her, but she knew if she wanted the best for her family she had to chose the one who is the most beneficial. How did she learn that? Probably because that's all woman ever talked about then. So yeah lol
True, and then she had to become a mother at such a young age, of course you want to go out and spend time having fun, I mean she should not have neglected the son but she didn't know how to be a mother, because while she's a mother at the age of idk i think 20, her other friends are partying and have freedom. So we need to understand from both perspective. I love your explanation
Thank you it just got me heated that some people would get mad at her, like imagine right most coming of age for women is 15. So she's married at 15ish maybe like months later, but yeah then she has to bear a heir at 16/17 so she's a child rasing a child. Plus she has to shoulder the responsibilities as the daughter because although her dad didn't tell her marry this guy marry that guy that pressure is still there. The other guy himself told her I'm your best choice so imagine if one guy told her that how long she has been hearing that for, not just from men but from women as well. PLUS women get post martum depression and at that time there is no medication no diagnosis you get what I'm saying? It's probably what she had, but she just didn't understand nor had the support to overcome it.
EXACTLY, like don't you want to have fun when you just lived 15-17 years your whole life, then just became a mother instantly. like I can't imagine the weight that has been put through her, I mean yes she neglected her son but what's important is the present that she was willing to change, and even in her last breath in her past life she regreted that she could've given love to her son. Like at least she wants to change. like I know it sounds rude when she said " He's the best choice/partner" But like what can we do, she didn't really knew him but she knew she rather marry him because she knows he will keep her safe. So like idk people should also know from the person's respective. AND SHE WAS STILL YOUNG, of course she hasn't mature yet. And then when girl's have depression they call them crazy like ugh. huhu I totally I get you
I'm sorry. I'm just like i read so many comments shaming him as a father so I might have instinctively read yours as that by mistake . Sowwy (⌒▽⌒)
If anybody is mad at her, y'all must not understand her situation. She is to be married off to ANYONE who's more beneficial and chosen by her father. Just remember she's what 15 ? 17 ? Not even a full grown adult, but she has to be married off like a piece of property and she does not complain for the sake of her family. Yeah it might be fucked up the way she said he's the best partner, but that's what she has been told ALL HER LIFE to find the best partner available. Plus she had to leave behind the life that she loved for the sake of her family not for her own. She wasn't allowed to go out for 4 or 5 years because her husband said so and when she was finally able too she was ridiculed for not being a good mother. Like y'all the life that she went through wasn't easy（/TДT)/