It's because every fucking story the male lead gives no fuck.
This is the vibe check for the male lead
I know just in real life it happens too and it makes me really sad becuase this is just what is suppose to be expected and I wish more books and people made it normal and not rare.
Ik, I feel you. I remember when I got my fist bf and he was mad I told him I didn't wanna do it, so we broke up. Then I dated this other guy and told him the same thing and he was like "no worries, take your time" I was like welp shit now I wanna do it, since you are a decent human being
I'm so sorry I'll never understand how people cannot understand that no means no and get upset over it. Glad it worked out with the other person though :)
The fact people are happy about consent... please know that you should be treated good and should always say no if you don't want to do it & make sure you ask for consent!