I swear

That's a very romantic view but it's not a realistic one. The boss although harsh, is a caring person, but he is just afraid to get hurt again. He is not a pessimistic, he tends to be a bit cynical but we still don't know what happened with his ex wife. I got mad when he spoke of "damaged goods" but I realized that contextually he probably means someone who is hang up on his past.

Now moving on to his ex. During wartimes a lot of people never get accounted for, that's the tragedy of what happens and why it's so awful, it's where human life becomes forgettable. It is completely understandable that after losing contact for years he would be counted as dead. Their love was 15 years. But no matter what clinging to a relationship after so long is actually less healthy. I'm mad at the ex for his horrible behaviour and how he didn't even stop to think of the situation Joyoon was in and how disoriented he must feel.But they weren't gonna last anyway since he wasn't understanding towards his job and that would certainly create problems in the future. The ex's current boyfriend is a terrible person, even wishing that Joyoon had died in the battlefield. He is very pathetic, hanging on so many years almost begging for attention from someone that was obviously grieving.

Everything this!!! I do like the cynicism of the boss, I've been like that without the power position lol not everyone that has bewn hurt act the same way. I just know that ex is gonna want to come back and I it's gonna be too late because, yup been there too the manipulative bf of the ex is awful. I think they knew he was waking up from a coma before entering the hospital room. Why cling to your bf like that geez, if you know he needs to softly vreak up the news. A lot of awful behavior, yet, human.

Oh I agree! I can tell the boss has wounds and is keeping people at arms length on purpose. But his behaviour is ambiguous. He does not want to get hurt, so he hurts others with his unneccessarily sharp bluntness that is intended to cut and at the same time his physical reactions speak a different tune. That is what I dislike. He is in the wrong. Not about wanting to keep to himself and have distance and no intimacy with people, but about HOW he is going about it. I, too, am a person hurt by love and am afraid of love and can be very cold when I sense people try to get romantic with me. I did hurt someone in my early days, because I was irresponsible with my own feelings and behaviour and all. No matter what, what is going on inside you is your own responsibility nobody elses. He is a grown ass man in a leading position (not a kid like I was back than (19) ) That is why he deserves do face karma for that, you know? No amount of private trauma or what can excuse the shit you do outside of yourself to others, if you do not have an excuse like mental health. He is fine mentally, so he cannot excuse his poor behaviour and him abusing his position as a means to feed his confidence in being the asshole he is. He is caring, yes. But he could think a millisecond longer in how to express what he means in a more mature tone. I take peoples actions as a way to see them. No matter how good someone is at heart, their actions are what matters. So no matter how good his intentions may be, the way he acts does leave room to doubt.

And I get it. I get the ex. I get how he was a coward, why he was, why he was so broken, why he gave in to that kind of devoted attention during a time where he let go of himself and all. But what I mean is, that instead of being honest about it, he started blaming the guy. Instead of honestly facing everything, the excuse for him to move and, so he would not feel like shit, was "Yoon left me, yoon is the bad one, it is all yoon's faul"....you know what i mean? He then went on to kill him, like he saw him as "dead" and then he treated someone who just told him he was in coma for 5 years like baggage. So I won't see any excuses for him either.

Both semes are bad. The boss has hope, if he starts to reflect on his behaviour soon and compose himself and not take it out on others, his dissapointment with destiny, life and love, and keep it for himself. Someone in the Uke's position does not have the mental strength, let alone physical, to handle such scorn. Undeserving scorn at that. Because Uke is the only one there who is allowed to be weak and confused and not "compised. Why? He came back from the dead, is physically handicapped and is mentally instable/confused/strained.....

And just to add, I love straigthforward and blunt people who are what they are like as you see. Who are not acting. I am german after all, I come from a place where people throw shit straight at you without any thought of sounding uber polite or what. As well as my family, that would just straight tell me to my face if something looked ugly, if I said something stupid, whatever. Honesty is AWESOME. I find it very sexy. Especially if someone is masterfully sarcasting, I get all hot and botheres. Could imagine how hot it must look if that kind of hot boss is like that. But what I mean is, he is different with the Uke. DId no one see that? He goes an extra mile in his bluntness and is rather impulsively sharp with him. He is very sensitive about what the Uke does. It seems obvious, how he didn't want to notice him at all. But then he "gave in" and suggested to have a casual sexual encounter. What bothers me is not all that. But HOW he went at it. He could have just bluntly, like he did with the people in the restaurant who asked about his private life, said "I do not really wish to have any close relationship with you, someone who clearly is to hung up on his ex and not at all ready to face his present. But I would not mind to have something casual going, If you are also okay with it. So how about it?" or something like this. Openly telling him his boundaries and what is allowed within them, without being unneccessariyl, but still purposefully, hurtful....

And just to add, I love straigthforward and blunt people who are what they are like as you see. Who are not acting. I am german after all, I come from a place where people throw shit straight at you without any thought of sounding uber polite or what. As well as my family, that would just straight tell me to my face if something looked ugly, if I said something stupid, whatever. Honesty is AWESOME. I find it very sexy. Especially if someone is masterfully sarcasting, I get all hot and botheres. Could imagine how hot it must look if that kind of hot boss is like that. But what I mean is, he is different with the Uke. DId no one see that? He goes an extra mile in his bluntness and is rather impulsively sharp with him. He is very sensitive about what the Uke does. It seems obvious, how he didn't want to notice him at all. But then he "gave in" and suggested to have a casual sexual encounter. What bothers me is not all that. But HOW he went at it. He could have just bluntly, like he did with the people in the restaurant who asked about his private life, said "I do not really wish to have any close relationship with you, someone who clearly is to hung up on his ex and not at all ready to face his present. But I would not mind to have something casual going, If you are also okay with it. So how about it?" or something like this. Openly telling him his boundaries and what is allowed within them, without being unneccessariyl, but still purposefully, hurtful....a strong person would not be hurt. I feel like the past yoon would not. BUt this yoon is weak. Boss knows it, so he puts the knife where he KNOWS it will hurt...

ups...haha i guess it send it out twice...the second one is the right one though, with the last sentences

I absolutely agree that it's not an excuse for him to have bad behaviour, but it certainly makes his actions understandable. To be honest with the foresight of the raws, I find his behaviour forgivable. It becomes very clear that he is very afraid of getting hurt again, but he cares deeply for him. And trauma caused by a past relationship or a combination of bad past experiences is a mental health issue. I guess that's the difference from me between the boss and the ex. The ex's actions I personally find less forgivable. He knew what his career choice was from the start and still got mad about what happened. Like you said, he blamed him and avoided any sort of responsibility. It's obvious he felt guilty learning what happened and tried to project all his negative feelings on Joyoon. It would have been much easier on both of them if they had a clean breakup before he left. Lastly, yes the boss is very blunt but he is not abusing his power. The things he says are harsh but most of them are also true. As someone who tries to be honest as much as possible, I understand that being truthful comes with hurting people's feelings sometimes and I understand the consequences. There are times where things are gonna sound harsh no matter how much you sugar-coat them.

I believe that he is not trying to hurt him, I think his intentions are good and he thinks that it's vital for the uke to hear this right now, specifically because he is hurting, that's why it looks targeted.

hmmm...didn't think of it that way...could be right...like cold water to make him come to face reality you mean? i guess i was just super agitated by the ex and his boyfriend and how they behaved and than that he had to hear all that krass stuff from his boss/sunbae....but yeah...i really do not dislik his undisclosed self, i was just thrown off at his "don't pick up stuff others threw away" shit "but you would be okay for casual sex" attitude....a few hours after the uke went through hell from that ptsd and then the ex facing him like that and then being told his behaviour was creepy and stalkerish second handedly by the colleagues....guess i was empathising to much may be dunno...but i do see the point...yes...uke has to get to his senses, move on, and become independent first from his ex and their past....