To Each His Own

etheREYaaal January 25, 2021 5:37 pm

This is a such a gem BUT the only problem is the FMC who is gradually regressing back to square one. I'm starting to get irked by her pity party. I know you're scarred woman but please, steel your resolve. Crying won't help. Stuttering is okay but what you should do is held your head up high since you're a noble and defend yourself from the blatant disrespect from the knights and wizards. Do not try to hide behind your husband's shadow, since both of you are equal. Learn to defend yourself, speak highly as a duchess, and let them grovel at your feet. Ghad, I'm so frustrated. I hope the character development will hasten its pace a bit.

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    Enoon January 29, 2021 8:30 am

    I think is well paced. Why? It’s ‘cause you can’t erase all the psychological trauma and shit you’ve received your entire life in an instant. I mean, she’s definitely in a healthier environment, which is great, but she’s bottling everything inside and that will end up damaging her even further. The burden of her past, the abuse and her zero confidence all lead to what she is now: a thin string that could snap any time. She’s not getting better, I even dare say that there will be a major breakdown soon, which will be the very step to acceptance and getting better. She feels like being chased and that every mistake will lead to punishment, the agonising and persistent feeling that she would be worthless once they discover her incompetence snd the morbid anxiousness are all chefs kiss. ‘Coz this is how she lived before. Endless mental and physical abuse and the way the author is portraying it...is just exquisite. She doesn’t know anything, she’s a clueless noblewoman that is building a castle on an unstable floor, what she need to do is letting that building crumble and starting anew, with a better floor.


    Idk if it makes sense lol

    Enoon January 29, 2021 8:33 am
    I think is well paced. Why? It’s ‘cause you can’t erase all the psychological trauma and shit you’ve received your entire life in an instant. I mean, she’s definitely in a healthier environment, which... Enoon

    And then, I bet she never had any confidant in her entire life. Which is the reason why her brain is so fucked up.

    cupcake January 29, 2021 6:33 pm

    what are you expecting? this is very well paced and realistic, no one with trauma just recovers 180° just because they are in a better ppace and with a better person. that’s not how it works, and it’s not a pity party, she’s emotionally unstable and traumatised and trying to get better. but it isnt as easy as you think

    Fountain♡DG January 30, 2021 10:45 am
    what are you expecting? this is very well paced and realistic, no one with trauma just recovers 180° just because they are in a better ppace and with a better person. that’s not how it works, and it’s not ... cupcake

    period

    Fountain♡DG January 30, 2021 10:54 am
    what are you expecting? this is very well paced and realistic, no one with trauma just recovers 180° just because they are in a better ppace and with a better person. that’s not how it works, and it’s not ... cupcake

    Just like the FL, I was mentally and physically abused by my family my whole life to the point that sometimes I don’t feel pain anymore. Right now everything’s fine, its peaceful and no abuse happening. However, I can’t help but still be scared, overthink, overreact and panic because you certainly just CANT erase that trauma you felt.

    IMO, this pace is really really realistic thats why I love this manhwa so much. Because unlike other FL that was abuse, she didn’t SUDDENLY become better.. like nothing happened to her before at all. I want to see how she overcomes her trauma, how she’d try to be better and how she’d gain confidence.

    You’re definitely right, overcoming a trauma isn’t easy at all.