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I'm pretty sure kids now a days have the internet (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ god damn man use it then (●￣(ｴ)￣●)

He probably felt the need to get some first hand information... Or first mouth XD

And Jaerim doesn't have to stand that kind of treatment. Having mental health issues is not a free pass for being an asshole. I hope you know that the partners of people who are suffering from mental health problems also deserve to think of their own well being too. Never set yourself on fire to keep others warm. If Yuri is being a toxic existence in Jaerim's life, then Jaerim shouldn't sacrifice his own mental health for him.

I agree. It's not easy being in Yuri's situation, and although I'm not saying its good for him to keep Jaerim on the side like that, actually opening up to a guy that you just recently started to date... Yeah, very difficult. Liking someone very much builds up the base for a strong relationship of trust... But its not like people tell all their deepest and darkest secrets from the get go. I actually find this more realistic than if Yuri would have told Jearim everything he has kept in his heart right away

Sorry i dont feel sympathy for yuri anymore. Idc what you going through.what he been doung to jerim and treating him is disgusting and unforgettable. Smfh

So then he can always leave Yuri, nobody's forcing him to stay. I don't say that Yuri is RIGHT by acting the way he does. But he's just kid, too. And all he does is telling everyone to leave him alone, what's the big deal?
Should he be supposed to sit around grinning and acting like everything's fine when it isn't?

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I'd even state that people who just recently fell in love are even more reluctant to show their weak sides to their beloved. 'Cause you're so much more vulnerable...

He's simply hiding and telling Jaerim to leave him alone. What else is one supposed to do when utterly confused? It's not like he can depend on a life long relationship with Jaerim. It's not that I sympathize with Yuri all that much, but to me his behaviour seems much more realistic than in most other manga.

Then don't freaking blame them when that leads them to do something that makes your weakness even more obvious (as happened, here), precisely because THEY. DIDN'T. KNOW. After all, he just called his boyfriend a 'fucking ugly loser'. What is that if not victim blaming? Do you 'get' it, now? Apparently, it's impossible for people with PTSD to know the difference from right and wrong or between treating others kindly or unkindly, in your and the other 'Anonymous'' world. When, in fact, that's not the REAL world I live in. The real world I live in eschews making excuses for bullies and other malcontents in the time worn fantasy belief that this will somehow 'solve' the issue by sweeping it under the rug.

So, Yuri gets a pass on all of his behavior and have it all his way while it's Jaerim's fault for sticking by his side. Yup, it's the 1950's all over, again. Kthxbai.

It's nice for you, that this is how your real world is like.

However, this is about a book, which is not real at all and from my point of view Yuri has a lot of issues, which in its fictional boundaries I perceive and judge as something he needs help for and not blame.
That doesn't mean, his behaviour against Jaerim is right. It just is how it is and I feel sorry for both of them.
Besides you don't need to yell at me, I can read normal letters just fine, thank you very much.

I don't get this, what's it got to do with the 1950s? They most possibly wouldn't even have been able to date in the 1950s, depending on what country and/or culture you base your comment on.
Understanding Yuri's behaviour as some sort of helplessness doesn't mean to let it pass. But it also doesn't mean to blame him for his very own pain and despair. That's way too black and white thinking. But anyway, suit yourself.

They both are. Plenty. (￣∇￣")