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Ah I see your a man of culture as well ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

Oof sorry I replied to the wrong comment (￣ε(#￣)Σ

we'll see when you get a kid

Just saying, being so overprotective over your child isn't healthy. It ruins your relationship with them. I understand worrying and wanting to be part of your kids' life but sometimes theyneed their space as well. Plus, she's trying to make him depend on her by making him feel useless. "You can't survive without me." that's just unhealthy.

Yes, any parent would worry about their children and it's not that it's BAD. But you have to realise in the end, who is the one who's depending on who. If you keep telling yourself that they need you to survive, then maybe YOU'RE the one who's dependent on them. Not the other way around.

Being so overprotective is just stifling and suffocating to the kids. You're the one making them incompetent, and when they start to grow up, the overprotective parent is so scared that they would be forgotten that they try to make their kids depend on them more, which just worsens their relationship.

I've had friends who are held back and just stressed and feel as if they're hated by their parents bc of how overprotective their parents are, making decisions for their kids as if their kids can't make their own decisions. I understand that the kids might make the wrong decisions, but that's why you need to guide them through their mistakes, not make their decisions for them. They would never learn then.

Being protective is understandable and should be kept at a moderate amount that isn't harmful to your child and your relationship with them. When you start being and overprotective parent, that's when things go south. Don't say that being overprotective is natural, bc no it isnt. It shouldnt be. When you're overprotective, that's when you don't trust your kids. And relationships without trust, is bound to break.

soo true!!! she so harmful and feel too overprotective to the point of harming him and ruining his life.
does she feel better runing his life so she can feel useful or in his life? I guess so XD
still I really don't like her or can support her actions.

Tbh in this case she's just doing her relationship with him ;w; not ruining his life per say. She's probably just lonely and misses him but doesn't even realise it herself -haizzz
Yeah same xd

to say he is useless unless he "do something the sociaty wants" aka get married is harmful to his self confidence, and harming someone else self confidence from your family can ruin any life he wants to build.
again, the point is not to harm a child Self Confidence, it the opposite, she should raise his Self Confidence so he can lean on her when he needs too and not when she wants to just cause it make her feel useful.
you do know people with a very low Self Confidence, Self love and low self worth can lead to a horrible things.

Oof I didn't really focus on that line. I agree. I feel like "to be socially accepted" in the end so that "people won't hurt you" is such a dangerous concept that a lot of parents have. It just boils down to them being protective over their child, wanting them to be accepted by society and having a 'happy life', that leads them to suffocating their children and hurting, like you said, their self confidence.

yeas. that what I meant when I said she is kind of ruin his life by been this way. it make me soo sad ╥﹏╥

Ghhhhh sammmeee TT