i feel so connected with chapter 86 so bad not bc i relate to woowon, but with seoan. i see myself in him during the times i was frustrated, angry and anxious. it's a very volatile and toxic behaviour. people like us don't know how to express our concerns kindly. we may have good intentions but somehow choose harsh words to express it. in my case, i go to therapy to fix it. this behaviour is a part of my mental illness and i do think it's the same with seoan. i just hope he continues to go to his therapies to address this. just to clarify, having mental health issues is not an excuse to treat people badly.
(apologies for projecting haha i can't help)
It's not always that, at least not for everyone. I have found myself in situations where i can get annoyed and angry cause i just build up or hole up too many emotions without expressing them or even when i express them and i see no changes about stuff bothering me, i feel like I'm not being heard by other individual and it frustrates me to the point of one day just exploding. And I'm talking about my feelings being thrown under the bus multiple times about the same things again again not just them being violated once. So with all that i can say personally i know how to express myself but when the other person doesn't listen or doesn't want to listen and that keeps hurting me, yes that's gonna make me start yelling my feelings out and maybe then they will hear. And then we get called emotional and overactive lmao:)
yeah i get what you mean. not being heard when your express your feelings/concerns countless times is very frustrating and can cause you to explode. which is valid. maybe i just projected on seoan's behaviour just bc it feels and looks too much alike to what i do haha. i just feel like saying hurtful things when you're angry is not the best thing to resolve the issue. and i envy people who can keep calm and think rationally even when they're in a very frustrating scenarios. i've gone through life being called overly sensitive and emotional bc of this behaviour lmao
"she looked just like you" meanwhile it was the person you hate the most in world.
if my spouse who should know and love me say this to my face, i would've killed myself in front of them idc
they could've just literally use puppy instead of boy. it throws me off everytime
just send everyone to theraphy lmao
Author giving up a peek at Parenting life please it hurts to see your kid and husband betrayed you as if your trauma was a joke and can be erased by a few words
i gotta give it to the author for thinking of ways to stir up drama hahaha
sooae's life must be really exhausting. having an ex who ghosed you act like nothing happened and so annoyingly patronizing towards her. a vindictive "step sister" who betrayed her but still have to see bc of their parents. and a famous friend pining on her which makes everything complicated.
honestly, at this point, sooae should just move somewhere else and start over. i know she doesn't have to uproot her life because of messy and fucked up people but what else can she do? all this mulling over is not worth ruining her peace. and that also applies to all of us. if people in our life do not respect our peace, then we should find it somewhere else.
I wouldn't say she's the damsel in distress here ... she could just make up her mind and put some boundries between her & the famous guy who made advances that she doesn't reprimanded, reject etc. "Protect your peace" is very true but in her case, so far after a handful of years she seems incapable of letting go of these people which is fair it takes time. But note that her indecisiveness and inability to let go of these people, is what kept her emotional state in a hazzard. Objectively speaking she HAVE a hand in her current stressful situation.
Her vendictive step sister is very yikes. But they both moved out of the house. They could meet because of family stuff but, I pretty sure Sooae can be clever enough to put move on without forgiving. Have family lunch dinner and treat do the courtesy stuff then immediately give her step sister the cold shoulder. There are ways to keep your distance. She could also tell her parents she has a fallout with the stepsis without being specific, if they don't believe and allow her to keep her distances, that should be a red flag enough for her to not go to these lunches for their approval's sake.
+ If she dislike her current situation she could have just set boundaries, ignore, play dead or dumb and kept her an CEs which she doesn't so it boils down to her welcoming these problematic people's shenanigans and the consequences then play the hurt part when stuff aren't pleasant to her anymore.... Ngl from an outsider view and considering Sooae's personality and social skills, now to and back in high school. She seems like one of those types that has such a small social circle and low self esteem they cling to it and the people that made her feel validated.
im not really saying she's a damsel in distress here. she does have a choice but bc of her "sitting on the fence" personality, she seems to have a difficulty navigating the situations she's in. that's why i said the best thing she could do is just leave and free herself, but again, i get that it would be hard for her knowing how she is.
also, i love your comment! it brings so much more insight on sooae and her relationships. thank you for taking the time to share ♡
may i suggest...therapy?
SORRY I ACCIDENTALLY THUMBS DOWN
no worries besties!