GoSpark's Topics (359)

Oh nvm. You have to buy coins for the 3rd chap. :/

What website is it through? (I.e. Tapas, Lehzin, etc)

https://bomtoon.com/comic/ep_list/dear_door

:'(

Being thicker than a snicker makes the boys come quicker. Also thick thighs make the dicks rise.

I think that's just the ones who are outgoing and are socially active. A lot of us gays are super lonely.

i seem to attract more female friends than guys i do have some close guys i casually talk but not as close as those with the females. my problem with having guy friends is that i don't like people misunderstanding our closeness that's why i never get too close to any of my guy friends not to mention most of them just like to tease me a lot sometimes it's annoying already. how wish i have attracted more guy friends than females then my love life wouldn't be so dull! hahaha

Sweetheart, I know you had the best of intentions, but unfortunatelly even your comment about "gay people usually have more girls/boys hanging around them cuz their personality is uplifting and they just ooze fun and refreshing sass that you cant help but want to be friends with them. " is homophopic, it's a pre concieved idea that puts us, LGBT people in very specific roles and cliches of how we are supposed to act or how we usually act (supposedly) when that's simply not real. It's truth that lots of people try to change the world and look at life with hope and such, but most of our comunity is casted out from our own families, have abusive parents that discredit everything we are and do and suffered during adolescence cuz of prejudice and misinform. It's quite easy to say "we are usualy bright and happy", but the truth is that most of us have some deep, deep scars.

That's a pity I hope more people begin to realise that grouping people only separated us more cuz we are all individuals so we will never be the same therefore moving past those labels and start seeing that we all shed the same red blood. Sorry for ranting

Just going to say, that you probably meant no harm but your comment was a bit homophobic. Expecting people who are gay to be "sassy confident best friends " rather than accepting that everyone is an individual. Also, men generally wont appreciate being called "sister". Just because a man is gay or bi, doesn't mean he is feminine or wants to be associated with being a lesser male just due to his orientation.

well let's just be really clear that feminine does not equal a "lesser" man

Obviously, but assuming a man who is gay must be feminine and accepting of being called female pronouns isn't on. You wouldn't call a woman who is gay, masculine or call her "brother". Sexual orientation is not the same as gender identity. There is also the long running homophobia that gay men "aren't real men" are 'sissies" etc so maybe you are just not aware of this, and think it's cute to call a man, "sister". In Japan, gay men are usually represented in the media as being camp and cross dressing, wearing clown like makeup rather than a more realistic representation. Expecting people to be 'camp" "sassy' "feminine" 'social" just because the like men is ridiculous.

I'm obviously well aware of this, but there is a nasty trend in the LGBT+ community of denigrating effeminate men. I assume that when you said "lesser men" that was a malapropism and you meant "less manly."

Well you assumed wrongly then. I think some people on here are just unaware of how badly it comes across when they expect people who are LGBT to conform to their preconceptions and rigid stereotypes, rather than accepting that people are just people, some nice, some not so much. Expecting gay men to be effeminate or bitchy and loud isn't really on, these traits aren't defined by orientation. Just to add to this, in the comments of another webtoon, people were saying that the 'manly" character was emasculated and gross simply because he was being the bottom during sex. So on this site anyway, there are people that think there are these weird gender roles, where one character has to be more feminine meaning they are the "bottom" and the other has to be more masculine, meaning they are the 'top". Even on this webtoon you have people calling Yuyang "uke" simply because he is shorter and more catty.

How am I assuming wrongly? "Lesser" means inferior or worse, not "less." If I am wrong, and you are in fact calling effeminate men "lesser," then that's certainly connected to homophobia.

Other people criticising manly men does not mean that it is suddenly okay to call effeminate men "lesser."

Since I clearly understand the problem of stereotypes, it is not clear to me why you are repeating the same explanation which really is quite self-evident.

Oh im sorry if thats your case, i really dont get how hard it is for the older generation to accept things..shouldnt their wisdom make them more flexible?

I guess its just most of the gay people i met are like that. Theyre fun, frank, outgoing, very caring motherhens , sometimes wild... i think they just knew how to hide their scars or have more accepting families that love them unconditionally. my sisters dont really talk to me about their hardships too but i guess its a sort of escape? Like theyre already dealing with so much so atleast when theyre out with me, they dont want to think about that stuff so i dont pry anymore.

I know some of their struggles as ive been friends with someone who is gay while in the classroom but goes back to being straight before the end of the class cuz its time to go home and if their dad sees them with lipstick on(as he usually does in class) hes gonna get beaten up. Ive cheered for him when he finally had a bf 6 years later but had a fall out cuz his bf thought were too close as friends and thought of me as a rival. =_= i gave way cuz he waited 6 years for that man. Aint gonna make him choose nor do i want to be involved in drama(Med school gives me enough stress already)

I think our society is more or less accepting of gays as individuals (is why i grew up nonhomophobic(?) ) but still conservative and confused as to when its about the romantic aspect of it. Young!me just really thought men like girls, girls like men, gays like both and thats that.

Er.. thats what our group calls each other? Its a term of endearment for us, shows our closeness? Sorry if i offended you.. and the others.

I know gay men have different personalities, some flaunt, some hide, some likes to be feminine, some just prefers male romantically and outwardly looks like just another man, but essentially themselves.. but i was referring to the gay men ive encountered(prolly implied) and my sisters, and they just happened to be the types that likes to dressup and do fabulous makeup and are chatty? (●'◡'●)ﾉ